MIL

[mclovin123]

@PyariCgudia

Do you think your dad was a bad father? Do you think your mom had it a little easier since she didn’t have to live with her MIL?

And what exactly is the difference between living with the parents vs. living in another home (maybe nearby or within driving distance) that allows you to take care of them in the former and not take care of them in the latter?

And are they disabled? Do they have dementia? Do they have a moving disorder? Do they have real fall risks? Do they need someone to administer medications to them?

If your parents are perfectly healthy and they have each other, then what is the need for you to live with them?

You’re going to take care of them when they’re old anyway. You might as well enjoy your life alone with your spouse until that time comes.

And then if you demand a girl to accept this condition of yours, then don’t be upset if she asks for her parents to move into your home as well. Would you be ok if your MIL moved in to live with you and your mother? Would you be willing to deal with every argument she has with your mother?

Well okay…my parents are not healthy and they will need someone to look after them.

If my wife asks me for her parents to move in solely because she has to bear with my parents then I’ll be annoyed.

But if she thinks that they need help or if she just wants her parents to live with us for no other ulterior motive (ex: retaliation) then its all good.

You are right in the sense that if parents are healthy then they can afford to live a few doors away. Afterall, my dad did the same. And my mom did benefit from not living with my dadi, my dadi still lives in the stone age lol.

But I still don’t get your point because I’ve been agreeing to almost everything you’ve said.

Or… I get a feeling that you seem to think that I want to live with my parents bec of our culture?? Cuz the answer to that is no, I’ve constantly said the reason is my parents health.