MIL slaps husband

[Paheli00]

Re: MIL slaps husband

@IcedDiamond

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I’ll admit that my husband raised his voice and was angry.

My MIL has a history of shouting at us. She puts me down regularly.
She is in charge of her house and will brook no interference.
But she has no problems dictating to others how to live their lives.

We were living with my MIL** until about a couple of weeks before Eid**.

First of all you should consider yourself lucky that you have a husband who is willing to stand up for YOU. He seems like the type that know which battles are worth fighting and WILL take action when necessary. After all…he took the step of moving out of the house when his mother didn’t back off with her demands. I’m pretty sure quite a few women reading this wished their husband’s were willing to move out too.

Your MIL…given her controlling personality…probably was (still is) furious that her son moved out. She feels powerless and is resentful. Since you two moved out only a few weeks ago…MIL is still not even close to letting her anger go. So all her frustration/feeling powerless/resentment…combined with the fact that your husband raised his voice at her just pushed her over the edge.

@IcedDiamond

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We thought our relationship would improve if we no longer lived with her.
We still went to her house for Eid and we haven’t talked to her about this.

Well yes…with it being Eid…it wouldn’t be a good idea to not to spend it with her and the rest of the family. Again, that would simply escalate the situation. A few weeks is nothing in these situations. Based on what you wrote about MIL’s personality…it may take MONTHS…maybe even years before things improve. Heck or she may never change at all! The most important thing is that your husband took the difficult step of moving out of the house.

I still stand by what I wrote earlier. Yes it was wrong for your MIL to hit your husband. However, your husband made the right decision in choosing to not react.