MIL ISSUES

kakee · March 15, 2012, 5:04pm

My MIL h8s beef and I luv beef

what shld I do?

only srs answrs pls

jaan_leva · March 15, 2012, 5:06pm

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Hates beef as in don't like eating or don't want it in her house?

If she doesn't like beef, she doesn't have to eat it.

Mirch · March 15, 2012, 5:09pm

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Answer depends on the reason behind her disliking.
1. Is meat eating prohibited in her religion.
2. She an animal lover and does not want them to be killed for human consumption ?
3. Childhood trauma ?
4. Does not like the aroma of meat ?
5. Any other ?

kakee · March 15, 2012, 5:09pm

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As in would nag you if you choose a beef meal and doesn't eat it in the house. I find it silly tbh and I really want to argue that it isn't as bad as she makes it out to be but I don't know her and I would never ever disrespect her...but then again I don't fancy being told by my husband that my MIL doesn't like watching me eat what I like.

kakee · March 15, 2012, 5:11pm

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Is meat eating prohibited in her religion. She's Muslim so no. unless theres different rules for different Muslims..?
She an animal lover and does not want them to be killed for human consumption ? nope. she eats chicken, lamb, goat etc
Childhood trauma ? nope
Does not like the aroma of meat ? nope
Any other ? she thinks its bad for your health high blood pressure and all. I haven't researched much into it because if I do I'm afraid I'll argue...

STA · March 15, 2012, 5:12pm

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sushi

kakee · March 15, 2012, 5:15pm

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no lol

jaan_leva · March 15, 2012, 5:16pm

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If its her religion, may God help you.

kakee · March 15, 2012, 5:19pm

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Muslim

queer · March 15, 2012, 5:20pm

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you make her a kobe beef kabab, she'll love you long taime.

Mirch · March 15, 2012, 5:21pm

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In this case become a hypocrite , pretend it to be disliking and eat it chup chup k. What can we do ? At her age it is difficult to convince her. Over consumption is not good my with moderation you can eat any halal cheez you like.

kakee · March 15, 2012, 5:22pm

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I'm more concerned about the health issue?

is beef really that bad for high blood pressure etc?

queer · March 15, 2012, 5:25pm

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well red meat is pretty bad for blood pressure and artery disease. but a serving of beef once a week or lower won't really make her die any sooner.

5amra · March 15, 2012, 5:25pm

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Feed her fish

kakee · March 15, 2012, 5:25pm

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I don't think lying to her is that good.. I adore her. Should I just play the dumb foreigner? and ignore? xD

kakee · March 15, 2012, 5:26pm

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I hate fish
except for expensive sushi.. if that makes sense?

kakee · March 15, 2012, 5:28pm

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forget once a week I eat beef everyday lol. Well its not like I would be cooking so I guess I have no choice in the matter. sighs I'm scared I'm going to starve to death because of incapability of eating spicy food. (Everybody else in my family can eat spicy food and use chopsticks why can't I?)

prototype · March 15, 2012, 5:43pm

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I am not surprised because I have seen many people who dont eat beef ! I dont know where your MIl belongs to/ lives but what I have heard is it comes from influence of pre-partition era where hindus used to pick battles on sacrificing a cow since they worshipped it so eventually many muslim families too stayed away from beef and this has passed on to future generation.. AND even more jaahil thing I heard is people with bad intentions use beef (black magic,etc) so that’s a reason for some too

people living in pakistan must have noticed that the waiters/workers at restaurants specifically inform about a steak or a burger that IT IS BEEF,do you want it ? my usual answer is 'do you serve haraam beef ? if yes, please get me a halaal one ’ so they are instructed to ensure that customers know if it is beef and I have even seen people changing their orders when they are told it is beef !

from islamic pov, I have to find the hadith/ayah with proper wordings that clearly prohibits to resctrict oneself from eating what Allah has made lawful and permissible (unless these are health related issues ofcourse)

kakee · March 15, 2012, 5:50pm

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I don't think its a religious concern more a health concern and I get it but see from my perspective if you're trying to eat healthy you add more fruit and vegetables.. not just cut out a few things and think its all good.

queer · March 15, 2012, 5:51pm

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so you already think you know more than your mil. shabaash bachay, you will fit right in. :p