MIL ISSUES

Lifestyle Relationships
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Of course I do. I know I'm not an innocent angel as she thinks I am. She's going to have a tough time trying to make me see that not letting a baby crawl is a good thing.
I'm quite opinionated which is why I'm trying to cover my grounds so I don't ruin my innocent,angel w/e cover >_>"

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Being hypocrite is no different than this strategy , you do not have to lie , you will be saying bad thing about beef and then you will eat it behind her back. Where is a lie in that ?

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I think I've come to a solution. I won't say anything xD I just pray to god that she won't say messed up things that will touch a nerve with me because I'm not good at hiding emotion.

Oh and don't get me wrong people
I adore my MIL she's sweet, caring and old without her I wouldn't have my SO. :) So I would never ever be disrespectful towards her.

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maybe you both can find something you both like to bond over? like daikon radish aka mooooooli..

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lol
I don't cook.
she likes Japanese culture so I guess we could bond over that if I wasn't so shy.

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your hubby is a desi man as in south asian aka loves his family and mommy very very dearly even if he doesn’t let on that he does right now in the honeymoon beginning.

i would keep my mouth shut when mil is around regarding issues you two don’t agree on, she’s an elder she ain’t changin her mind, if she does hallejuyah(!!!) if she hates beef, don’t mention or eat beef in front of her. you don’t want conflict in the beginning with the other woman your hubs loves to death and you adore too. you’re both women so you have atleast that in common, woohoo, and i’m sure much more stuff in common as you get to know her better.

learn from her and her years of experience, put yourself in her position and see how you would want your fav japanese(i’m guessin)bahu to act.

try to integrate into pakistani culture and especially islamic culture(you’ve already done the most important one) and the family, try to be the model pakistani bahu, do whatever their family loves doing. i’m sure you’ll do just fine with his mother, don’t get influenced by the mean mil stereotypes. good luck, god speed :k::flower1:

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gulpmaybe i’m totally wrong :vivo:

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its amusing but what exactly entails "honeymoon phase"?

my SO is not a mammas boy xD although he's family oriented (as he should be given his age lol) it doesn't bother me and he'll always support me (within reason) because I do the same with him.

As I said before my MIL is a sweet old lady who is a typical mother fussing over everybody. I won't be staying at her house for only a month or so after getting married so relatives can congratulate and I can explore Pakistan, and the markets there.

I would never live in their house because my SOs older brother lives there with his wife + kid and his younger brother who is getting married early next year, his wife will be living there too. So even if I don't do much I would still try to talk to my MIL and play with my nephew but I still don't think I would cause that much trouble.

I'm not worried about fitting into the family if it happens then it happens. I just hope there won't be much attention given to me since the other "new" DIL would be Pakistani and she's a beautiful girl. Although I don't know if she speaks English or not if she does I'll try to become friends with her since we're closer in age than my SOs sister (who has 3 kids and a full time job @_@)

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Yeah my MIL is like that too. Both my MIL and FIL don't eat beef because they think its bad for you (ummm and eat 10 servings of sweets). I think they just don't like beef and try to impose it on others. I've told them several times that that much sweets is worse than eating beef once or twice a week. They think I am wrong but I don't live with them so who cares what they think. I do see them/live with them for 2-3 months every 2 years when they visit us. I cook what I want to, I try not to cook too much beef when they are with us. Works well for everyone. I let them eat their sweets though :D

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make for her what she likes and make for yourself what you like, simple

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mhmm thats the mentality my aunt has and her kids weigh the same as I do and they are younger than me..
I'm pretty chilled about this I don't know if I should be worried but then again I'm not even married to my SO yet. although reading other peoples experiences its making me think maybe I'm deluding myself? I guess I just have to be patient and wait till next year to actually see what they are like and pray that I won't have any problems.

not very practical are you xD

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btw why is beef considered bad? What are in +ve/-ve points?

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well if you compare it to other meats i.e chicken people can say its bad for you because its high in cholesterol. Main reason why people who watch their diet don't eat red meat.

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My friend's mother in law did not like anything she cooked so now her mil mostly makes food at home and my friend usually just eats out ...

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sounds like your friend doesnt like your MIL's cooking either. but only the mil gets named for disliking frand's cooking?

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I think that would be rude lol. I wouldn't eat out all the time xD its just I have a low tolerance for spice and my face goes all red.. its really weird.
I don't want to cause a burden to my sweet MIL