Hi,
I am currently in debate with my misses about the method of bringing up children and I would like some people’s view on this matter it would be helpful.
Her view is that children should be 150% supported from when there little till they get married. The parents should provide food, clothing, education, a car, a home pay for there marriage, set up a business for them and when they reach about 25 they should marry and then leave them to be and not help them after marriage. She also believes that study later after marriage is unacceptable as when people get older there minds become weaker therefore they will never adapt. She also believes that any money which is given from government shouldn’t be spent on children as parents would devalue there children causing separation, fights and no inner feelings. She also holds the belief that there is no such thing as career change from a joiner to a plumber etc as he/she has trained and experience of one profession and becoming something else requires you to start over again. I do not agree with her views and she holds them strongly a firm policy.
My view is that parents according to there circumstances should provide for there children at a minimum/moderate level for food, clothing, education, marriage, business, car etc I feel it should be left for the child to decide on there own future with parents making recommendations which are open to negotiation. I think the age a person to marry should be left to the individual girls mature quicker and may want marriage at 18 if there happy with it while men mature later on but some men feel mature at 20 even and older females prefer younger men. I also believe people can develop over there working careers and life has ups and downs and not A to Z. I think children should make a contribution to them own selves rather than relying on the parents all the time as when parents are gone they may take that attitude instilled into them to there other friends and become reliant on others. Also, there is a risk that children will ask everything from there parents and when they don’t have the means due to unforeseen circumstances things will go wrong. So my police is helping children as much as you can afford to the best of your ability but also encouraging your children to work for themselves and build there own future for tomorrow. I understand were my wife is coming from, but I do not agree. She was bought up with her view on upbringing and I am bought up with my parents method. We both live in the UK.
Let me know your thoughts please.
Thanks.