Re: Messy People
saddzz: I think you didnt read my posts attentively. I had no problem with her being reserved, moody or shy. There is a difference between a shy or moody and an unruly and messy behaviour. Moreover, guppies, I didnt start this thread here as a poll in favour/ against/ guessing at what kind of person she is. My concern is our mutual relations for my own peace of mind. Definitely everyone likes to live in harmony with others not necessarily as a conscious effort to be everyone's favourite etc.
redvelvet, I very much understand that you brought up that notion of maybe she is jealous only as a possibility since I agree jealousy and insecurity can be a part of everyones teenage, espceially when you are the youngest, and you see someone coming up and winning over the family. My fiance is the eldest in the family, so first of all she is not into bhabhi/nand relationship as yet so doesnt know about the intricacies of this relationship and secondly, maybe she is afraid she will lose the love of her eldest brother after his marriage will will not happen insha Allah. Ofcourse she is young. She will learn with time, and even if she doesnt, I as her eldest bhabhi in future will help her getting rid of this rudeness and messy behaviour since in the long run she herself will be hurtful because of this all. I as a bhabhi can endure but everyone especially her inlaws will not. And I do hope to help her in this regard.
Thanks for all the help i was offered here. It did help me ofcourse perceiving the situation as an elder and elder ones are always great, (atleast they have to pose so, lol).