[quote="Rene, post:3, topic:204451"]
redvelvet. I read every word of yours so carefully. And I tahnkyou for being so thoughtful and considerate. No she is not jealous. She is too young than me for that. I didnt really mean to complain about anything to my fiance. He is a wonderful person and very much understanding to. Its just I share with him whenever I m upset do I just felt like... but I understand he might feel bad.
Renee,
TRUST ME.......this girl is jealous. You seem to think that a 20 year old girl is a bachi. Trust me.......20 is young.....but it's not a "bachi" type age that she's not capable of being jealous. U think 20 is too young to be jealous?
Jealousy doesn't have an age limit, Renee. I work with children.....I've seen even little kids in preschool get jealous because they think they are receiving less attention than someone. I've seen teenagers get jealous too. This girl is TWENTY.........that is NOT too young to get jealous.
I know that you said you also have a younger sister that is 20 and is much better behaved. But the reason why your sister is more respectful is because she is not spoiled. And keep in mind that not all sisters are the same. Just because your sister is nice........doesn't mean that another person's sister will also be the same. Everyone has a different personality even if they are the same age.
Aur tum "spoiled" ka matlab nahin samajh rahi. Spoiled ka matlab "bhigaar na." Maybe your sister-in-law is so "laadli" in her family....that har kisi kay laad pyaar ne us ko thora sa bighaar diya hai. I've seen this happen in young children as well. When parents spoil and papmer their children too much and don't set any boundaries/limits/consequences......the children can become disrespectful. Every family is different. Ho sakta hai k in your in-laws family....this girl has been given more freedom to behave however she wants because she is the "laadli."
Look, you haven't even entered into your in-laws' family yet. And if you've always been nice to this girl......then what reason does she have to dislike you? It seems like jealousy....she doesn't want to share the attention with someone else. OR ......the other reason could be as **Sadzzz **suggested....that she is a very shy person and takes time to become comfortable around others.
Or perhaps this girl is very close to her brother (the guy you are marrying). And she's jealous that her favorite brother will be giving more attention to YOU.
You said that your fiance lives abroad. Does he plan to bring you over to the country where he works in the future? Or will you permanently live with your in-laws? Talk to your sister-in-law. After the shadi, you'll have more time to get to know her and things could get better then. If not.........then try to relax. Your fiance's other sisters and his parents like you. And one day the youngest will get married and you'll have more space.