I feel there are more men like me who’s wife scold them but they stay mum and dont let even the breeze feel their secret and soltitude in bathroom sobings
I am sure there are more guys like me but they never say it here because they feel other guys will look down at them and call them sissy.
Oh sweet and sensetive ladies on board ! Tell me what should I do ? What should i do that she stops scolding me ? Should I go to my mother in law and ask her to stop her daughter from this torment attacks on her hubby.
Guys please guide me how you avoid this abuse from your life partner ?
C_R may not be serious here and this may be a light hatred thread, but it sure exhibits the attitude towards domestic violence against men. The common belief is that only women are the victims of DV and men are afraid to ever speak about it because of all the stereotypes attached to masculinity. But fact of the matter is an abuser, be it a man or woman can be a monster and victims of DV needs our compassion and not ridicule.
There really shouldn't be any scolding between a husband and wife, be is in the house or in public. And certainly never in front of children.
Although I am not married, I still can tell you all one thing (regardless of what the fight may be about) - That if a person is so tormented by his wife, that he is driven to write about it here. And so disclose such a private matter in public to us strangers (instead of trying to reason with her directly). Then the battle is already lost...
Perhaps if the wife can be made to read what I wrote above, then maybe she will realize what she is doing wrong. If not, then I say she needs anger management classes. I still believe that nothing will come of it, but at least it will give the poster a new line to add in his story.
The sobbing in bathroom makes me feel that the wife isn't all that bad. Because the reason why she scolds him is not given. So maybe she scolds him for being such a big crybaby. The action of coming here with this problem (to consult with us strangers) does show weakness on his part. So if the wife really gets to see this, then perhaps instead of just scolding him, she may even actually start hitting him!
OK it's been a whole 2 hours since my past post over here in this string. So I've been doing some serious thinking about this. Yes yes, today being Sunday means that I've got little else to do - So why not use my time to see if I can be of some help here.
However I am not married, so whatever I say will be no better then a layman's advice. Still, logically I thinking of course, if 2 people get married, then I have to assume that they must have some sort of a bond which they strengthened by getting married.
So if one just steps back for a while and takes a deep breath after such a fight - And also then remember what made you marry that person in the first place. Then there is a very good chance that the issue at hand (over which there is now a fight) will seem insignificant.
Either that, or 1 of the 2 will simply realize their mistake of getting married to the other person in the first place...
