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Lifestyle Relationships
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I might be getting married in upcoming 6 months…

So do you people suggest something for me.. anything special or to get control over my nerves.. coz i m very nervous that how can I adjust with a lady to whom i dont know even for the first time on the marriage i will be meeting her, and then first night what it would be.

I m confused, Please help.

Regards,

Gujjar.

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How old are you?

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I swear If yo hadn't write men only I wouldnt have checked this thread but your title made me curious :D

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What are you nervous about ? what is your worry ?
Need more information , be specific , I do not want to be judgmental and assume things before posting my reply.

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^lol

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Dude. Don't do any thing stupid. She will be there equally nervous. You 2 are going to be together for the rest of your lives. SO If you don;t come off as Superman on first Day(well night)
Its not an issue at all!!!!!!!!
There will be million more times :)

That first time is not wresteling match so don;t worry about not looking like a hmmm hulk hogan.

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wow refreshing to know that guys are the same as us.sorry i know you said guys only but i thought i should tell you about my friend who got married last yr.
he was a good friend of mine in our uni group. and he was getting married to a girl back home. he was just as nervous as you and he had only met her once years agho, they are cusins. anyway he was really stressing, more worried than any girl ive seen, i guess guys get nervous because thye are expected to know everything but girls get away with being nervous because they are meant to be nervous.

anyway afterwards, he was fine, he said the run up to the wedding was more stressful and tense then everything after...

so relax

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silly very silly post.

When guys question like this - then you just know the night is gonna be horrible =(

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only reason I wanted to answer this stupid quesiont is that I dont want you to make any silly mistakes.
One of my Friend was so nervous that how could he get intimate with some one he hardly know.
So dude try to talk in exotic manner with future wife over the phone.
Luckily he told me and stopped him from doing it.

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what is exotic manner on the phone? :confused:

and what sort of a guy discusses his wife and intimacy with his friends? i’d have shot him in the face with my AK-47.

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common, everyone is like this. no body is super hung or super boy....

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First he kept going on saying "I don't know her ".
Then one day he told me that he spoke about foot massage to her.

She was from pak. dude in US. This info was enough for me to safe him from one of the greatest humiliation.
I told him you only have engagement she don't know you. Dont talk to her in that manner or chances are she is going to tell that to her mom. And they would call off the wedding.

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just remember that. and concentrate on other thing.

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[note]This thread doesn't seem to belong to Health and Fitness. I will move it to Life1. [/note]

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People are assuming things about the thread starter. He might have health related concerns , that is why I want him to be specific about his nervousness and worries.

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GB....not to worry. Its NOT a requirement to get intimate on the first night. I know one couple who took MONTHS before they consummated their marriage.

Just talk. Get to know her, ask her about her interests, tell her about yours. Make some plans - ask her about things she'd like to do, tell about things you would like to do, places you'd like to see. Ask her about what she likes to eat, tell her what you like. Make a "date" to go to a restaurant you think you'd both like.

You'll be surprised I think at how lovely a time you have when you take all the pressure off of yourself - and her - and just relax and plan to get to know each other.

All the best on your marriage!!

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WOW...what a perfect suggestion MO3! Cant agree anymore!

This the best thing, I think you can do. Dont keep this stupid idea in mind that you are entering the room only for "One" thing. Start conversation, try to get to know her. Take your complete time. That'll give you so much courage and calm your nerves down. You'll be at the top of everything you do in the end.

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Mirchi bhai, I agree.

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Im sorry Im the CM here I had to check in on this thread :blush:

carry on folks!

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I am so going to take a deck of cards + chess board with me.