How seriously do you take these online disputes so many of us often get into where it results in one person disagreeing, which is often seen as attacking/insulting, another’s viewpoint? I’m NOT talking about religious disputes … it could be about anything relatively minor, i.e. relationships, all those girls v. boys threads to our opinions on general stuff, etc.
If someone goes out of their way to belittle you in public (meaning in a thread), would you be content if they sent you an apology in private a few days later acknowledging their mistake? Do you even bother responding to the apology or do you ignore it? Do you think it’s sincere or even acceptable for someone to insult and mock you in public only to apologise in private?
If someone does apologise to you in private, does your view of them change at all? Would you attempt to continue or maintain any type of friendship with them or not?
I understand that it takes a ‘big’ person to face up to their mistake or take that step and apologise to another person. Really though, what’s the point if the person in question is just going to carry on with their behaviour and ‘attack’ someone else’s views? Shouldn’t you learn from your mistake and not try and ‘hurt’ someone else?
It just seems that ‘sorry’ is being said just for the sake of it and there’s no real sincerity in it.
What right do we have to demand more than a sorry aside from common respect?
I mean I understand that if one of my close friends did that to me, most definately a very simple sorry would not be enough ---but it would be from others.
And if somebody is going to keep up the "attacks" -- why would he/she keep sending apologies?
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What right do we have to demand more than a sorry aside from common respect?
I mean I understand that if one of my close friends did that to me, most definately a very simple sorry would not be enough ---but it would be from others.
And if somebody is going to keep up the "attacks" -- why would he/she keep sending apologies?
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Um, I'm not 'demanding' an apology from anybody. I'm just asking why some people feel the need to apologise if they are going to carry on abusing other people.
Madhanee, I somewhat agree with your post - the second point. :p
Sure, we're all real people, with genuine feelings and passions and saying 'sorry' when you've offended someone is fine and dandy but it goes a bit overboard when you keep getting apologies from the same person all the time .... wouldn't you say?
MQ (the Queen), you should apologize to everyone for posting. Thank you.
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Why?
Mehnaz-- People rarely keep apologizing if they keep attacking.And it takes two people to insult and get insulted.And if people keep insulting you (by you I dont mean only you but anybody) then maybe take it up with them and clear things up? That would be the best thing to do.
What if Kaleem’s apology is insincere ..would you still expect it from him :-p ?
See, this is a typical example of how things said online can hurt you…even if it is for a few seconds. Whether we take online community seriously or not, we should take responsibility for what we write.
If the other person is a habitual offender then he has other bigger issues to take care off. If I were you, I would forgive him but at the same time I’d be indifferent to his/her comments and apologies. If you care about the person then maybe let him know about his unusual behaviour.
Fayz and others, I learnt after a long time (I am slow) from a certain fellow guppie named NYA aka Madhanee that these online barbs are just for funsake. They dont mean much…as long as you dont get down to “ma, bhen” …say whatever you want…see if I care.
Mehnaz, I sincerely apologize for offending you. May Allah save us all from Hell. Ameen.
how about apologies filled with excuses and but's?
if you are genuinely sorry, just say "i am sorry for what i said and did". What is the point of adding 3-4 paragraphs worth of excuses.. is it to make urself feel better?
sheesh.. there are genuine sorries which are about a sentence long.. then there are those feel good sorries which are an essay long
Hmm I dunno people are people..be it in cyber world or teh real world..all have feelings..so If I'm mean I apologise...I don't really want to hurt anyone
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