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*Originally posted by MehnazQ: *
Why do people feel the need to apologise?
How seriously do you take these online disputes so many of us often get into where it results in one person disagreeing, which is often seen as attacking/insulting, another's viewpoint? I'm NOT talking about religious disputes ... it could be about anything relatively minor, i.e. relationships, all those girls v. boys threads to our opinions on general stuff, etc.
If someone goes out of their way to belittle you in public (meaning in a thread), would you be content if they sent you an apology in private a few days later acknowledging their mistake? Do you even bother responding to the apology or do you ignore it? Do you think it's sincere or even acceptable for someone to insult and mock you in public only to apologise in private?
If someone does apologise to you in private, does your view of them change at all? Would you attempt to continue or maintain any type of friendship with them or not?
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i usually dont care if they appologize or not. nor do i ever appologize for whatever i say here. i dont take any online community seriously except for few ppl that i have personally met or talked to.
mending fences.. hmmmm
good thing to do in real life or online.
people are still real feelings are still real
however
some fences are not meant to be mended.
I have mended soem fences in real life that I wish I had not
some fences deserve to be ripped apart, pulverized and set ablaze.
i usually dont care if they appologize or not. nor do i ever appologize for whatever i say here. i dont take any online community seriously except for few ppl that i have personally met or talked to.
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I agree with you and Fayz. Although this is online and most of us don't take things so super-seriously as other people, there are those who do and who are affected by other peoples' comments.
I guess the people who actually send out apologies also take the 'online' world seriously or else they wouldn't bother.
i find that some people, not mentioning any names, like to insult others online as a way of gaining attention and then when they run out of rude things to say, apologise. It's like, say something and mean it, respect your own opinion rather than regret saying it afterwards. In fact, i know one particular person who speaks without thinking and doesnt even realise she looks and sounds pathetic...God Bless Americans and their freedom of speech. :)
I have never expected anyone to say sorry for having offended me online, because everyone has their opinions and their own way of conveying that message.. Even when I found those comments to be rude and offensive.... As Madahanee said its online...LET IT GO!!!
Saying Sorry for the sake of appeasement and that too continously is quite pathetic....I would rather not continue to speak to that individual then keep up the cycle...
MEhnaz if the person is of any significance to me I would appreciate an apology. An apology whether made in private or public is acceptable. The private ones usually suffice though. I would probably look for a public one to soothe my ego. I know I should take the cyber world a little less seriously!
If the person offending is of no importance to me, I would not expect an apology nor respond if one was sent nor appreciate it cos it really doesn’t matter to me one way or the other.
My rule however is that if I offend someone in public I make a public apology and if its in private then the apology is private too. Doesn't happen too often though cos I am pretty civil.
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*Originally posted by Miss_Mohabbat: *
i find that some people, not mentioning any names, like to insult others online as a way of gaining attention and then when they run out of rude things to say, apologise. It's like, say something and mean it, respect your own opinion rather than regret saying it afterwards. In fact, i know one particular person who speaks without thinking and doesnt even realise she looks and sounds pathetic...God Bless Americans and their freedom of speech. :)
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*Originally posted by Minerva: *
ahaaaan, OOook. ( block, unblock, clock, lock, khkhehe)
But the point is why do we have to care in the first place? Why O Why? I mean its not like everyone is our loved one, not that we are gonna meetup with all the online people.
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I normally block my online friends when I am not available to chat or I'm busy interacting with one person. (can't multi-taks like women u know) I prefer it over the "away" status. :-) Normally ppl don't mind it...but I know you are sensitive...I will block and delete you now :-D kisa hi muqaiaay :-p
Again, online people are as real as they get...If one can be a dawg online then I have no doubt the person is capable of being the same in real life too. Just cuz you are online..doesn't mean you don't respect your elders or call others ma/behn whores and bitches.
:- Normally ppl don’t mind it…but I know you are sensitive…I will block and delete you now kisa hi muqaiaay :-p
Ahh! maharaj Fayz, plz eisa gazab na karna, I 'll get sleepless nights if you do that with me.main baar baar eisay kachokay naheen seh sakti
that was some light hearted bantering and the acknowledgement of the fact that no matter what, there are some people you do care for without any rhyme or reason.
On a serious note, please go ahead and do the honors, if that makes you happy. We should value each other’s happiness.
… thanks though.
kisa hi muqaiaay :-p
