Maybe you are ready for a relationship with a man the same age when you are mature enough not to see your father in every man? Replacing your father with another male is practically guaranteed to cause problems with a marriage.
I have several friends with husbands two or three years younger, and they have very happy and harmonious marriages. I would never have known who was older if they had not told me. And seeing that men have a shorter life expectancy than women maybe that is the key to living together for a loooooong time.
oi! take that back..how dare you curse my future husband…
When i fall for older guys, i don;t look at their age, its not important to me, i dont fancy every 53 year old i see you know :p…its the individual, the person he is, and he is an amazing person…
I couldnt possibly begin to imagine what its like marrying a younger guy…just the thought of communicating with them would freak me out.
And no, i dont think of him as my dad, cos if your knew the way i think about my dad you would know that i would never compare any man let alone an older man against my dad.
Im not saying it right or wrong to like older/younger men, i think im now beginning to see men more as the type of man/person they are rather then their age, looks, wotever. Having said this, older men appeal to me more…maybe it is the whole experience thing or the fact that they are wiser …i dont really know…but every man should be considered an individual rather then all old/young men are the same. I learnt this the hard way and i guess im still learning.
MM, I totally understand your point. I have a question. What if that 53 year old is already married happily? Would you still want him and would manoeuvre getting him in your life somehow?
He is very happily married, with 3 children i think, he talks about them all the time. He’s my uni lecturer…
Im not and i repeat not going to do anything about it as
he is not a muslim
hes married
3.do i need to go on?
Im just in love with him thats all…no biggie, i would never act upon this love as i dont really beileve anything would ever happen…its like a crush so to speak
He the type of man that typifies what i look for in a man..his qualities, his smile, his sense of humour, his dress sense, his hands, his ability to look and sound delicious at all times, his intellect, his glasses, his love for his children…his everything…
and i think you should read the “im in love” thread to understand the true nature of my love for this man…
Let us talk about it and straighten up certain things like what is the difference between a crush and love....they cant mean one and same thing but again there should be some element of committment in the crush as well. Since you are already sure nothing shall happen out of it, what is the utility of mesmerising him? Even if you are aspiring to seek some one resembling him, he too would be accompanying the same package more or less!
I am confused.
commitment in my crush? do you mean i should start stalking him?
what is the utility of mesmerising him? i have no idea…i cant help fancing him!
even if i am aspiring to seek someone like him, i think i know that i wont get an exact replica of him and nor do i expect one.
difference between crush and love? if your asking me to be very very honest here, i dont think im really in love with him as in real love, iv never experienced real love and quite frankly dont really believe in it…yes, i know my gupshup name does not do much for my thoughts, but thats the point. Im pretty sure it is just a crush or infactuation though. and i am pretty aware of the fact that i may have contradicted myself somewhere, but again, i think thats the point.
The point of this thread however, is the idea that older men in general are much more appealing to me and i wantd to discuss the pros and cons.
phew…have i explained enough now? You know, too much knowledge of my thoughts is somewhat boring so i would’nt really worry about chick.
Ask him if he takes Livitra. That will open up things between you.
What if he told you that he had a crush on you and is willing to dump his wife OR convert to islam so he can have two wives what are you gonna do then? Lets see how much you really love him?
Now I understand why most marriages are failure! A very interesting read. Had I known it earlier I wud have gone for marrying a younger girl than of my age. Sighzzz
Girls do always go for the older guy. Among teenagers, they say it's because girls mature faster than guys, so a guy a year/two years older than a girl would be roughly equivalent. I don't think that transcends into a space of decades, so, girls like you are just icky.
I don;t care for your lecturer missy :p My own victim is back in the country. He is so nice. Really really nice. I could talk to him for hours and hours which is what i have been doing since he got back!
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