Men - would you lie about your past if questioned?

[Reha]

Re: Men - would you lie about your past if questioned?

@pak2015

Instead of giving us this advice and getting unnecessarily and immaturely offended by my thread as though it was some sort of personal attack against you (it was not meant to be offensive or sexist, im a guy so clearly I’d be interested in hearing the female perspective which is why I addressed it to girls, how you reacted that too as a moderator made it into a sexist/gender rights issue when it wasn’t even one to begin with and made a provoking rival thread as a response and then are now chiding posters for continuing the provocation that you yourself fueled..lol doesn’t make sense to me), how about advising girls (and guys) who frequent these threads to be more careful, selective and try to do their due diligence before getting intimate prior to engagement/marriage not only because it’s wrong culturally and religiously but also because its not worth the risks in case things don’t work out. People who have made this mistake, including me, or those who understand this concept should be advising others from making same mistake, not getting offended by the topic. Just because men are more likely to be okay with having a past doesnt mean its right when women take the same nonchalant approach to it just because women have some sick need to copy everything men do just to prove a point, wrong is wrong regardless of gender, two wrongs dont make a right. That would have been more sensible, mature advice that could apply to everyone no?

Because the truth is it is much easier for a girl to have an intimate past (even the most average looking girl gets approached or hit on) than it is a guy who often gets rejected numerous times before a girl even gives him the time of day. Indirectly advocating or implicitly condoning that it’s okay to have an intimate past just to make a gender rights statements is a disservice to the younger girls (and guys) that may be reading your posts.

If you’re not mature enough to know to stay away from what’s forbidden then you’re not mature enough to get married right now.

The whole past thing gets really annoying when we have men who obviously date, goof around and do everything under the planet. Then finally when ready to settle down, focus their laser beams on a woman’s past. Wonderful. Ironic. Dumb.

Also, I have to this day NEVER seen a single positive thing come out of delving into a spouse or potential rishta’s past. Not one.

Lastly…the past is the past for a reason. Even our faith tells us to bury it and leave it. If you have issues with that then its not ME you have a problem with…its Islam itself.

In which case, I’d suggest prayer…namaz always helps.