Men - would you lie about your past if questioned?

htmwrites · June 2, 2015, 2:36pm

Re: Men - would you lie about your past if questioned?

thanks for contributing and providing another perspective..always interesting to hear..i didnt say more girls have pasts than guys..i agree more guys tend to have pasts than girls..all i was saying was girls tend to have have MORE opportunities so it’s EASIER, doesn’t necessarily mean they actually take advantage of those opportunities, guys tend to act on their more limited opportunities more so than girls..i do agree that men are h*arami they’ll do everything but then judge the girl for it if she does it..my point was that even guys are doing wrong not because theyre judging but because theyre okay with having a past themselves..should reserve that for after marriage instead of fooling around and taking that risk of it hurting your image/being used against you/etc before nikkah..not talking about moral superiority or anything

This reminded me of something my brother told me once. He said NEVER trust a guy. No matter how much of a gentlemen man he is to you, he’s probably still a har*mi inside. If he opens the door for you, it’s only to check you out as you walk past him. Until this guy marries you, you have to believe he’s a turd because that’s just how men do.

I had some difficulty believing what he said, because a) i have never seen or heard of my brother ever doing such a thing and neither has my father so i always end up thinking men can’t possibly be that bad if i’m surrounded by such nice ones. b) i figured he was just saying all this from a brother’s perspective to protect his sister. I know it’s a child like thought but i like to think people have SOME degree of humility to them.

That being said, in regards to this thread, as a girl, i would have 4 questions for a guy who i would consider to marry:

Have you had any girlfriends, if so, how many?
Are you still in contact with any of these girls?
Do you still love any of these girls/ how important are they still to you?
Do you regret any of these activities?

That’s all i want to know. I don’t care if he has had sexual relations with her because i’m not going to judge him for it as long as he repents it. I don’t care how many there have been, i just need to know if he’s over them and not in contact with any of them. If there is any ambiguity to any of his answers, game over. He has to be assertive and clear with his answers. I’m not playing any game here, it’s about the rest of our lives and being straight forward is the way to go…in my humble opinion.