Just a quick observation and I know you all might hate me for saying this ... but being bulletproof implies that you don't let anything affect you ... then how will you allow yourself to be affected when it is the right thing to be doing?
I mean should we not all take good constructive advice on board and let our emotions come to terms with the fact that we have struggled to improve?
Actually I agree with this, the bulletproof theory is great as just that, a theory. If we make our entire persona completely bulletproof then we also deprive ourselves of feelings and empathy becoming numb ourselves because there is no picking or choosing moments to bring the bulletproof-ness out, it becomes a permanent aspect of our overall personality.
I know this because I know of a few 'bulletproof' people, both men and women, and they generally come across as very cold and uncompromising, to everybody! that's the thing, why alter our entire personality to combat criticism? I see that as punishing ourselves.
That was not advice but an opinion. Moderator to bun gai lekin khuch pata nahin aapko.
I will make you a deal though. You stop giving bad suicidal advice to young impressionable girls ... and I'll stop coming here.
Tum phir agaye apni tooti phooti advice jharney? Baaz ajao!
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See for some reason, no matter what anyone says to me...I dont feel bad. I dont have those moments of "why did he say that, it made me feel like crap". In some ways, its a good thing because you care so much about this guy that things he says affect you. In some ways its a bad thing if you let it affect your self-esteem and take it too far.
I think people get frustrated with me because nothing people say affects me to the point of tears or sadness.
Of course, we should take good constructive advice and use it to improve!
However, letting comments affect you to the point where you start to think less of yourself...this is bad.
If he doesnt compliment me, I dont get upset. I check my lipstick and go.
If he doesnt like my hair, I dont take it personally. What does he know about fashion? Its my hair and it looks cute!
If he thinks my cooking is bad - this never is the case - I would fix a little on the side for him the way he likes it and its over! I cook the way I was taught and love it!
If I started getting upset and emotional over everything, phir to hogaya kaam!
Zindagi bohot choti hai bhai...haso khelo aur aish karo!
Wow PSquared, this is AWESOME advice! i'm def taking notes....