Re: Men who marry beautiful women…
None of the above. A better question would be what would I prefer being rejected for. Let me clarify this : If women are generally appraised for their beauty, and men are generally appraised for their earning potential, who faces a greater disadvantage when they are lacking in the same? The woman who can’t change her face or standards of conventional beauty, or the man who can go back to school/change careers/get a promotion and change his earning potential? Which compliment is more meaningful - being acknowledged for things in your sphere of influence, or being acknowledged for what you’re born with? Which slight is worse - being rejected for not being in the right income bracket, or being rejected for being ugly?
Needless to say dealing in either/or absolutes is limiting, but the point was to view superficial decisions in relative terms. e.g. If you notice, I said one was less arbitrary than the other, not that one was arbitrary while the other wasn’t. I also said trophy spouses aside - meaning a single trait isn’t the ideal basis for a lifelong decision.