Re: Men who are not against polygamy [merged]
Firstly, I wish, really really wish that what you are saying was true and that polygamy was not a part of Islam.
But it is. I think what most of us are trying to do is to get an explanation which satisfies our mind. In this case, Islam is your comfort zone but polygamy is out of that zone, so you are trying to get to a sort of middle ground.
If polygamy was not allowed, then the prophet would have stopped the sahabies from doing it. We can say that the prophet was a man above all. But what about the sahabies? Do you think there has been no man from any time period of comparable caliber? I don’t think so. They were humans too and they made mistakes too. They were not always just.
In the end, Islam is a patriachial religion in which, as God says, men have a degree over women. They have more rights and they have more privileges.
Other than that, there is no reason why God would allow something and yet disallow it. If polygamy is not in the religion, why wouldn’t He have just stated that? He recommends one wife but gives the allowance of more than one.
More over, if multiple wives were not allowed, what is the rationale for allowing slave girls? It doesn’t make sense.
God saying ‘I know you will not be able to be just’ is similar to God saying, ‘I know your future.’ And yet, in both cases, we have the freedom to make choices. In the former, the choice of having more than one wife.
And like someone said above, when God tells men that they won’t be able to be just, I think it refers to their emotional inclination/ love. But they have to be just in providing resources etc. to their wives and families.