Men who are not against polygamy [merged]

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Re: Men who are not against polygamy [merged]

@Muzna

maybe I’ve come really late into this debate but one thing that I don’t understand is this:

if it goes that huzoor s.a.w. bought the camel from Jabir b. Abdullah and then returned it to him whilst telling him to keep the monies that were paid to him, does this not show that the prophet pbuh was pleased with Jabir?

and if you agree with the supposition that I’ve presented above then how can you conclude that marrying a virgin is preferred/recommended?
obviously the messenger of Allah pbuh was pleased with the sense of responsibility that Jabir carried after his father’s death.
obviously he wanted to reward him for his decision to marry a mature and experienced woman that would be able to help his family.

and as far as I can tell there is nothing disrespectful in suggesting that a young man may want to “sport with” a virgin…the prophet pbuh was no doubt a wise man that was not unfamiliar with the needs/desires of a young, virile male…why would he not suggest that this man marry a virgin?

I see no need to discard this hadees as untrue or unreliable.

I agree with what you said. The point I was trying to make (that probably got lost) is.

There are no different standards for 1st, 2nd, 3rd or 4rth Nikah. 2nd and later nikahs are allowed exactly for the reason the first nikah is allowed for and that is physical needs. Saying that islam allowed 4 marriages to support widows or divorced woman is not true. You can support them without marrying them. You dont have to marry them for that. Point is, you are allowed to marry a woman of any status (virgin, widowed, divorcee) for any of your nikah.