I’m sorry you’ve had to deal with this. I’ve seen this a lot also actually. Men wanting professional women as wives but then wanting them to become housewifes. Men should not be trying to change women–they need to find girls who are already like the type of wife they want. I’ve learned this the hard way from experience, can’t try to change anyone–glad I’ve learned this though. Guys cant want to marry most beautiful modern girl but then want her to wear hijab after marriage. Find a hijabi girl from the outset.