Would u ladies not like to know what ur husband actually feels?? what he actually wants from you??
If he’s being honest, why the anger?? If he’s telling you, you seem to have gained weight, isn’t that better than him not saying anything?? Or do you want him to lie and praise everything about u?? or do u want him to tell the truth but not compare you to any other woman? Is that it?
I do hate it when mom compares me to someone else but it always has a positive impact, because then I always strive to do better..
If my bf says to me, Your getting abit chubby loose some weight, I’ll be like Ok cool. If he says have you seen so and so you should look like her. I would get hurt, coz hes comparing me to another girl.
Or he really loves my curry .. I would be hurt if he said bla bla’s curry is so nice you should make it like her. Again it would hurt me.
Comparing a loved one to another person does hurt you. No matter what. Wish people would take feelings into consideration.
I don’t mind really…like when I’m about to over eat or I’m feeling lazy to do work out then he reminds me by saying “don’t you want body like (blah blah…some celeb)”…and i think it’s completely fine when he needs to motivate me.
i dunno about that coz my hubby never compares me to other women, nor does he start complimenting them in front of me to show me they are better than me, and vice versa. Maybe coz we have a secure relationship and if we have an issue we communicate it instead of bringing other people into our lives to look up to.
I have seen cases where an example is justified. When someone continues to insist that something is not doable and the example is brought up that well..others can make it happen. It’s less of a comparison and more of a case study showing that it isnpossible. Grades, health, education, savings whatever it is.
Suffice to say, after years of trying to stay super thin after 3 kids and bearing his comments she piled it on and is proper chubby now. She was beautiful and perfect before she married him, perfect combination of slender but curvy.
I do agree with you Sara. Men dont understand sometimes that no one else’s compliments or opinion really matters as much to them as their husband’s. If their husband compares them to someone else, it hurts their ego and kind of dents their self-image.
LOL…usually I dont argue with you lekin aap hi batao Nomi…how is it fair to compare your wife’s cooking to someone else’s? Vo itni mehnat karke pyar se khana banaye…to apka farz huwa ke aap khakey tareef karo. Baad mein batado aram se ke thora namak tez tha. Lekin apne kamaskam uska dil to rakhliya na. Thats what its all about.
If I need to lose weight, I want him to tell me. Thats never an issue. But dont compare me to Mrs. Khalid who is super fit because she has all the time in the world to spend 3 hours working out. Mrs Khalid doesnt have a job and her kids are in school in the daytime. The woman better be fit because she has no excuse.
Comparisons are wrong for anyone…be it husbands, wives or children. It doesnt matter. A lot of times what we long for might not be the best for us anyway. A super fit wife who argues with her husband over petty issues and doesnt really pay attention to her household because she is too self-involved isnt much use to anyone. But no one can see that, can they? Nope.
