Men hitting women

[ChunkyMonkey]

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@LittlePrincess

I 100% agree with you and also with MIAinVA…it really disgusts me when i see mothers giving more preferance to their sons rather than the daughters. Thats why in majority of these cases the sons grow up to be idiots often involved in crime and other bad things…there should be more mothers like MIAinVA and Mehnaz in the world.

I just HATE it when i see women letting their sons get away with everything…and making excuses for their bad behaviour.

Fathers tend to give priority/preferences to their daughters too, so its pretty even as far I have observed. As for the “majority of the cases” it can go wrong in any side really, you cant blame the mum’s for whatever the son’s end up doing or the dads for whatever the daughters end up doing for that matter. They themselves are responsible for the actions they end up making.

[LittleFairyPrincess]

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@ChunkyMonkey

Fathers tend to give priority/preferences to their daughters too, so its pretty even as far I have observed. As for the “majority of the cases” it can go wrong in any side really, you cant blame the mum’s for whatever the son’s end up doing or the dads for whatever the daughters end up doing for that matter. They themselves are responsible for the actions they end up making.

GENERALLY speaking more preference is given to sons from both parents and also grandparents. they get much happier upon having a son…generally speaking…for example…the example someone mentioned above about giving the leg pieces to the boys and shorba just for the girls…that would never happen the other way round.

[K337]

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I HATE MEN I AM A FEMINIST .WE SHOULD EGG THEM AND MAKE THEM WEAR GIRLY COSTUMES.

sorry for caps,i was just trying to be a bit more dramatic.

[FoxyToxy]

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What about women hitting men..it does happen!!!
Lol…
dont think anyone should fight end of!

[ChunkyMonkey]

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@LittlePrincess

GENERALLY speaking more preference is given to sons from both parents and also grandparents. they get much happier upon having a son…generally speaking…for example…the example someone mentioned above about giving the leg pieces to the boys and shorba just for the girls…that would never happen the other way round.

I agree to the “they being more happier upon having a son” part but at the same time I also think it comes as a natural occurrence/consensus, not only in Pakistan but all around the globe. If you want me to state the reasons why? I’d be happy to explain them to you.

As for the leg pieces to the boys and shorba to the girls part, seriously LP? I haven’t ever seen a family guilty of such treatment personally but at the same time I must admit I won’t be surprised if 1 out of 50 or even 100 families do that, the same family who either is backward, uneducated or needs medical help. And even if they were none of that, I just hope they know what Allah SWT will do to them for their discrimination/treatment.

[Tasavur]

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As someone said: men who beat their wives are not men.

@distinctiveflair

Let us look at Noble Verses 4:34-36 "(34). Men are the protectors and maintainers of women, because Allah has given the one more (strength) than the other, and because they support them from their means. Therefore the righteous women are devoutly obedient, and guard in (the husband’s) absence what Allah would have them guard. As to those women on whose part ye fear disloyalty and ill-conduct, admonish them (first), (Next), refuse to share their beds, (And last) beat them (lightly); but if they return to obedience, seek not against them Means (of annoyance): For Allah is Most High, great (above you all)… hmmmm.

There is a context to the verse you quote. Watch this video:

Khalid Yasin is a controversial figure, and I do not usually listen to him, but he answers this question (the issue of beating) beautifully.

[Scarface]

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If I hated my wife so much that I want to hit her, I would rather kick her out of the house and make life easy for both of us.

But I like the idea of pyar bhari beating every now and then

[McLovin]

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@psyah

Education is nothing without tarbiya …

Mothers:

Don’t spoil your sons
Don’t give them everything they want
Make them respect you
Make them respect life
Make them learn how to sacrifice
Make them give other people priority
> Give them a little to eat
Don’t ask them what they want to eat
Show them kindness and tell them off for being mean and cruel
Commend them for getting good grades but more so for being called ‘good’ or well behaved.

If all do this then men cannot be like you say above …

Excellent pointers! Ive noticed alot of mums doing the opposite of this list. Maybe I should show them it!?

I think the comment about eating are you trying to show your kids the value of food and how many people in the world dont have much?

As for hitting women… hmm GIRL HIT HIM BACK AND TELL HIM UR LEAVING!

However he is a question? What if your married and your parents say “Stick it out?”

[imtiz]

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It is such a shamefull act both ways ( man abusing woman or woman abusing man) but its hypocritic world we live in at the end of the day

[hanibal]

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@psyah

Education is nothing without tarbiya …

Mothers:

Don’t spoil your sons
Don’t give them everything they want
Make them respect you
Make them respect life
Make them learn how to sacrifice
Make them give other people priority
Give them a little to eat
Don’t ask them what they want to eat
Show them kindness and tell them off for being mean and cruel
Commend them for getting good grades but more so for being called ‘good’ or well behaved.

If all do this then men cannot be like you say above …

In Addition to above, Mothers should teach them to treat their Sisters nicely, boys must take good care of their sisters, should buy gifts for the sisters, should give them EIDEE ( however one can ask for loan and get it back :)) ) Boys should be taught to help their sisters in households even in cooking.. this is how one develop a good man…

[Niceusername]

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It’s the womens’ fault for not punching him in the nose.

[korn666]

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i honestly think a man does not show his manhood by hitting female but show’s that how much of a coward he is by hitting her and shouting at her!!!

[name_105]

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aaghh!! i HATE men who hit women!! i saw this drama where man hit his wife badly, he actually injured her severely, ok i know that was all acting because its a drama and she wasn’t hurt in real, but the way they showed it all, she was bruised, bleeding, tied up, on the floor, i cudn’t even bear it in a drama that i don’t want to believe it happens in real life!!!
hitting beating is just cruel!! pure mean!!! my heart aches at the thought of it!!

[LittleFairyPrincess]

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@ChunkyMonkey

I agree to the “they being more happier upon having a son” part but at the same time I also think it comes as a natural occurrence/consensus, not only in Pakistan but all around the globe. If you want me to state the reasons why? I’d be happy to explain them to you.

As for the leg pieces to the boys and shorba to the girls part, seriously LP? I haven’t ever seen a family guilty of such treatment personally but at the same time I must admit I won’t be surprised if 1 out of 50 or even 100 families do that, the same family who either is backward, uneducated or needs medical help. And even if they were none of that, I just hope they know what Allah SWT will do to them for their discrimination/treatment.

its NOT the same all over the GLOBE…have you ever been to a western country? English people generally speaking love their kids equally…there is no such mentality of liking guys more…so i dont know how you can call it a global problem when its not!

just because you havent seen such families it doesnt mean others havent! Ive seen it MANY times and I live in a multicultural society…and its obvious to see which cultures/ethnicities favour boys.

[CM]

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Hey a spank on the tush is not hitting. No matter how she tries to spin it.

[Decent_6Chora]

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No matter how you put it, it comes down to education (or lack of it) where rubber meets the road.

Now when i say education, that does not only mean education at school but over all taleem-o-tarbiyat of people. A person can hold double masters degree but can still be jahil and a person who is just 2 grade pass can be educated.

We at our home believe in eye-for-eye and my kick gets a kick in a butt from her in return right then, right there and life goes on