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Meenaz life/mind-set is ever changing thing. Which is good.
I hope you have more beautiful male childs. They will show they do what they.
Not planing to harm women they love.
I swear… I used to get so mad… I even gave them lectures, but they were an uneducated lot, nothing I said made sense to them.
I’m glad my parents were not like that and treated all of us siblings equally, alhamdulillah… in fact, we used to bully our brother a lot and poor kid would get scolded by mom for bothering us 
Please tell me you are joking??
and
Meenaaz you are one step short form being that kind who would want bury male child upon birth.
I doubt psyah ad Mehnaz are saying to starve your sons.
It's pretty common in desi families for the sons to be prioritised when it comes to food. They are asked what they specifically want to eat, how much they want to eat and they are even served before the daughters etc etc.
I think the point about not spoiling sons in that way is fair...otherwise they'll grow up thinking men and women aren't equal, and as soon as a guy believes women are inferior to him you enter a sticky situation.
About men who abuse women, they're the scum of the earth and I wouldn't stand for it. I do realise it's so easy to say you'd leave him but in reality most abused women are made to feel that they deserved the punishment and more often then not they're made to feel entirely dependable on their partner. Therefore, making it harder for them to leave him and end the relationship.
I've had the opportunity to work with domestic violence victims. Its easy to blame the woman, but sometimes they are so scared to leave the abuse. Either they are not educated enough or fear that once they separate, they will have no one to provide for them and need to fend for themselves. There are countless reasons they choose to stay: for their family/children, divorce is frowned upon, etc....
The problem is with our culture (Obviously this sort of abuse exists in every culture), but we have a habit of turning the other way and ignoring what isn't our business. Take case 3 for example, the incident at the Airport... not one person stopped the man from hitting the woman. If this had happened in the US and some guy was beating his woman, you can be certain that several ppl would have intervened.
Domestic Violence victims need to have resources available to them so that they can stand up on their own two feet and become independent and like Islam says, if you cant treat your women with kindness, let them go.
awwww lol.
I doubt psyah ad Mehnaz are saying to starve your sons.
let psyah say it.
Re: Men hitting women
hit him back. and leave
let psyah say it.
Psyah's original post made it clear that they didn't mean starve your sons. But, if you want to wait here until Psyah gets back to you...be my guest :p
Education is nothing without tarbiya ...
Mothers:
Don't spoil your sons Don't give them everything they want Make them respect you Make them respect life Make them learn how to sacrifice Make them give other people priority Give them a little to eat Don't ask them what they want to eat Show them kindness and tell them off for being mean and cruel Commend them for getting good grades but more so for being called 'good' or well behaved.
If all do this then men cannot be like you say above ...
Excellent advice to desi moms out there who think if they gave birth to a son they've attained sainthood and treat him like some sort of fragile being who needs to be cossetted and pampered and made to think he is a king and can do no wrong.........
I've seen it happen and women mostly stay in those marriages because of the children or what people would say etc etc......Its unfortunate that education is in no way a guarantee to making a boy a MAN.........***
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***REAL MEN don't hit WOMEN..........they've got nothing to prove !
Unlike those animals who need to prove their manhood by intimidating or abusing women....******
Men are created to protect that which is inferior in strength to them and those are the guys who deserve real respect ......those are deserving of being called MAN ! ***
There we go, beauty and the brain. 
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JK tum juley lo
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There is a special place for such men in the hereafter.
What's in store for men that treat their wives like crap?
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These behaviors (disrespect for women in general, aggressiveness) are taught very early in life. They may have seen their own fathers or other male members exbihit those behaviors.
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^:k: what’s taught/seen as a child..rarely changes!
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im 21 one of my close friends has a boyfriend at university...hes quite a bright young lad and he has hit her twice! my friend is not a shy girl..she is very strong...well i used to think she was but now she is coming out with things like 'some girls deserve to be hit'....hmmmm...
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SO TRUE
Education is nothing without tarbiya ...
Mothers:
Don't spoil your sons Don't give them everything they want Make them respect you Make them respect life Make them learn how to sacrifice Make them give other people priority Give them a little to eat Don't ask them what they want to eat Show them kindness and tell them off for being mean and cruel Commend them for getting good grades but more so for being called 'good' or well behaved.
If all do this then men cannot be like you say above ...
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**can u tell us more....
i dnt blv dz grl....
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im 21 one of my close friends has a boyfriend at university...hes quite a bright young lad and he has hit her twice! my friend is not a shy girl..she is very strong...well i used to think she was but now she is coming out with things like 'some girls deserve to be hit'....hmmmm...
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My bad, I thought it was about men 'flirting' women.
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All I know is that if my son grows up to be a bully, swears or hits people, I seriously did something wrong as a mother. That's my responsibility to ensure he doesn't turn out like that. It starts at home. It's cause they learn from an early age that there are no consequences to their actions. They go through life like this where they don't have to take responsiblity for anything. She made me hit her. She made me swear at her. It's always someone else's fault. Such individuals are never taught that they are responsible for their own behaviour and actions. The whole concept of empathy is non-existent. They are selfish and self-absorbed. Not taught to consider anybody else's feelings other than their own.
Women who end up in abusive situations and stay in it normally stay because they have little family support and zero self-esteem. It isn't as black and white as you may think.
I 100% agree with you and also with MIAinVA.....it really disgusts me when i see mothers giving more preferance to their sons rather than the daughters. Thats why in majority of these cases the sons grow up to be idiots often involved in crime and other bad things.....there should be more mothers like MIAinVA and Mehnaz in the world.
I just HATE it when i see women letting their sons get away with everything.....and making excuses for their bad behaviour.