Education is nothing without tarbiya …
Mothers:
Don’t spoil your sons
Don’t give them everything they want
Make them respect you
Make them respect life
Make them learn how to sacrifice
Make them give other people priority
Give them a little to eat
Don’t ask them what they want to eat
Show them kindness and tell them off for being mean and cruel
Commend them for getting good grades but more so for being called ‘good’ or well behaved.
If all do this then men cannot be like you say above …