Men Helping with Chores

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Thanks yaar. I tried my best but Rehaji is so amazing i don’t think an acrostic poem would do her justice. If only i could write a shakespeare like sonnet on her qualities that go beyond the mundane chores. saath mein likhte hain. english ki english ho jayegi aur tareef ki tareef :slight_smile:

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It's funny when these people try to compare themselves to to prophet's wives(pbuh)

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:wub:

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No one is comparing anyone to a prophet's wife. Rather, men are being compared to the Prophet's actions and teachings. If you can't handle that, then you're probably not a sunni, I gather? Or sunnah only applies when it suits you?

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Thanks aap ko pasand aaya :slight_smile: Aap ke liye bhi dedicate karti hoon. im sure aap mein woh sab khoobiyan bhi hain :slight_smile:

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Pisses me off when people start bringing firqa wariat into arguments. As far as I’m concerned I’m a Muslim nothing less nothing more and nor do I compare people with propet(pbuh).

No mention of what how the wives treated propet(pbuh). Genius.

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Ah, ok, so you're not sunni, then you can't really use the Prophet's life to justify any of your actions or beliefs either I gather. So why bother asking how the wives treated the Prophet? It's all just Firqah stuff anyway, right?

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lagta hai deep deep baatein ho rahi hain

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Religious lessons from a drinker. Good times and when did I mentioned I'm not a sunni. At least I don't believe in Baba ji's and small pieces of papers.
If you think I offended you with my opinion. You should hear the ones I kept to myself.

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You're accusing me of being a drinker? Or believing in Baba Ji's? Huh? Or small pieces of paper? double huh? Nice. Keep in mind, when you accuse someone of crimes they're not doing, the punishment for that is pretty grave. But I can't remember maybe that was also in a hadith, in which case, you're not buying hadith anyway, so nevermind.

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Come on yaar lets not talk about the personal things and different beliefs. Let's remember you're both Muslim and that's what matters. You're both part of the ummah. These small technicalities and differences is reasons for conflict in middle east and everywhere.
Now dono acche gs members ki tara sorry bolo aur ek doosre ko maaf karo.

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one of you can be the bigger person and let it slide. Look at the bigger picture. You belong to same religion, same nationality and you're both overseas Pakistanis. You've got a lot in common and you face similar struggle balancing your Pakistani identities with the Western ones, you may also come across similar racial prejudices and islamaphobia in your lives.
Embrane these commonalities and shed away your differences. You're both brothers and sisters. Will Allah(swt) like if 2 siblings to fight amongst each other?

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Lol this PCG was trying to say free mixing was islamically permissible and now she is trying to push her feminist agendas by trying to manipulate hadiths. Looooool you crack me up, you really do.

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Lolx u didnt gt my point ! aur teer nishane pe ja kr lag gya :D

Thats the thing , thats the reply of ur first post
We cant role bailan our way as we want it when it comes to Islam !

So u showed us one side of the pic when u said what the Holy Prophet P.B.U.H used to do

And I showed u the other side of the pic . So follow Islam completely and thats ur answer !

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The point of the post is - do you help around the house. Why are you evading this question Blacklisted Prince?

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If the men of today don't follow the Prophet SAW's example, then the women of today are not much better. They want to follow the Prophet SAW's wives in examples such as having a profession, fighting in a war, and quote examples of his patience when they failed to cook a meal for him......but they don't want to emulate the wives' humility and patience and level of respect that helped them maintain strong marriages whether they worked or were housewives.

In a marriage, if your partner usually takes care of you...you will be flexible with them if they fail to do something from time-to-time. My mom is a housewife and my dad cooks on the weekends, but during the rest of the week, my mom does the cooking. If once in a while my mom doesn't cook anything, my dad compromises by getting take-out. If my mom repeatedly failed to contribute, my dad would be upset...and he's a pretty patient guy. We read some ahadith and we take them to be the norm when that may not be the case.

For instance, the hadith where a servant says that the Prophet SAWS never rebuked him for not doing anything.......does this imply that this was the norm and that the servant never did any work at all? I doubt it. You read one hadith where the Prophet SAW's wife did not have a meal cooked when he asked......does this imply that she rarely cooked? If he SAWS ASKED her what was cooked or what was for lunch/dinner.....then his ASKING implies that he had the expectation that she would tend to this household responsibility. If he SAWS showed her mercy for not cooking anything......she, too, did not find his expectation to be demeaning; she didn't argue that I don't have to cook cuz I'm not obligated to. You wanna quote examples of the wives working, not cooking, fighting in battle.....but you don't wanna emulate their humility and patience and respect without which they would not have gone on to become the esteemed Mothers of the Believers. I doubt they (yes, even businesswoman Hazrat Khadija) would have received such a lofty status if they scorned/mocked simple tasks (cooking, cleaning, chai)....which reflect your care for your loved ones. But here housewives are being mocked and if they serve chai or tend to the cooking...they're seen as overambitious pushovers. The men get a scolding for not following the Prophet SAWS's character...for picking and choosing from the sunnah......but the women, too, are not emulating character of the wives in the true sense. It'll be brushed off with the comment that "nobody is comparing anyone to the prophet's wives"....,WHY NOT? If you can compare the men to him SAWS...why can the women not be compared then?

This thread is not just about men helping with chores, it's not that simple because there's a mocking/condescending undercurrent flowing.

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I don't think anyone is advocating for women to completely abandon household duties in situations where the man is the breadwinner and they're at home or they have less work hours. Each pulls as much weight as they can.

Not sure why people take this article to mean that all women should stop cooking. I don't think the writer of that article suggested such, nor do I. As can be seen by the fact that I can cook. And mA pretty good too. :)

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Should anyone ever be flaunting about his everyday deeds around the house to somebody who has no intentions whatsoever to believe them?

Most men do attempt at helping around in whatever capacity they could, mainly for the comfort/well being of their inventors, or said partners. They'd attempt in even if they're completely clueless about what's needed to be done.

The only thing that our women need to lift is our lasagna in and out of the oven. Period.

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Sure, she just has to apologise for existing. Why would she bring religion into this? I still can't get my head around this. I guess she knows me a lot better than myself.

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I don't know i can't read her intentions. Maybe it was a mistake, maybe it didn't intend to come across like this. Instead of letting anger take hold just forgive if there has been any hurt towards you and move on. It's not worth getting divisive over. Small things start bigger divisions. Just remember you're both Muslims and you're both Pakistanis you should be more united.