altmuslimah - Muslim Masculinity: Defining manhood: The facade of being “hard”
I did not know the Prophet (SAW) was reported to help with chores around the home and that he stitched clothes.
So when guys say they will not be doing the cooking, in our culture, is there any justification for this. Do you avoid helping around the house and use religion for justification? Cuz. MegaFail.
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see how much there is to learn PCG?
imagine if you didn't know this then how many men don't know this either......
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Except when we women have been asking for these basic rights in the rights process, we are thought of in negative terms. Or even better we get gaalian such as I’ve illustrated in recent blogs. 
I have been rejected for reasons such as not cooking daily/not making CHAI daily for his huzoor. 
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If I could just get the GS guys who don't think it's their Godly duty to help around the house, and that you need a vag for this, to actually do some work this weekend for their wife, thereby FLOORING their wife, I'd be floored.
Do you know that Prophet's wife not only participated in battles but led one?
How many of our women tried to learn about that before they expect hubby to change flat tires, get the oil changed, drive her to appointments, remember anniversaries, clean the garage, be romantic on-demand, etc etc etc...
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Yup, Rasool SAWS didn't think tending to household tasks made him less of a man.
At the same time, I've never come across any religious reference stating that his wives criticized him SAWS for not helping out in the home and there may have been days where he could not or didn't do so as that was not his primary responsibility. If the bulk of the household chores fell upon the wives, that certainly didn't reduce their lofty status. There is more than one way to look at this; lessons for both men and women can be gained from this example and probably the most important one is that neither he SAWS nor his wives found it demeaning or turned it into an ego war.
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I don't think its a big deal anymore...lots of men help around the house now.
My view with chores is very simple. Share some and divide others based on interest, or lack of it, ability and time, and then do it right.
So what falls in my exclusive domain,,
I am the resident bhangi, mistiri, munshi and assassin of the house, cleaning bathrooms, unclogging toilets caused by kids over indulgence in wet wipes, and experiments of what they can flush, taking out trash and recycling, unclogging the sink dispenser yet again, changing light bulbs, ensuring service and repair of all appliances and cars, changing all filters, vacuum belts, giving the damn vacuum roller a hair cut (unsure why they insist to brush hair in carpeted areas), everything to do with yard, mulch, driveway, snow plowing, dealing with bugs in and out if the house, spiders inside, wasps and bees outside. Grilling outside, running the patio pit or anything else for outside, taxes, financial planning, credit history reviews, bank reconciling
Now let me see what are the things that begum does that I don't also do ...hmmm her and kids laundry, and brush the girl's hair...and oh yes, shopping for kids clothes and supplies, and homework czar.
Cooking is 70-30 or 80-20, dishes are maybe 60-40. Cleaning the wood floors is 20-80, and same for the staircase.
Yeah, so there. I rock the casbah.
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I don't think its a big deal anymore...lots of men help around the house now.
The thought just occurred to me. I read the articled posted by OP and in regards to Rasool SAWS and household chores, the word "help" is used. I find this interesting and by no means am I trying to encourage the belief that men shouldn't contribute toward domestic responsibilities, but how often do we hear that a wife "helps" around the home? Not in this article by Yasmin Mogahed and not in general really. The word "help" is usually used for men in this context and not women. Why is that? And does this difference imply that while responsibilities should be shared, the primary obligations for both genders are different?
If you look at X2's post, while he may not spend as much time as his wife with cooking and cleaning, he takes cares of tasks that come easier to him than his wife and his contributions help make the home run smoother. It's a similar arrangement in my home as well. You think about the various ways your partner makes life easier for you and it can be hard to measure who does more for the other.
OP, I don't see the point of taking it upon yourself to chide or straighten out the married men on GS when ....
A) you don't live with them and they could very well have a healthy marriage
B) the men could be contributing in many other ways if not the cooking and cleaning....and whatever arrangement they have in terms of responsibilities is working well for them and their wives. It's a rather arrogant assumption to think they need fixing.
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lmao X2 at the toilet and the hairy vacuum
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The thought just occurred to me. I read the articled posted by OP and in regards to Rasool SAWS and household chores, the word "help" is used. I find this interesting and by no means am I trying to encourage the belief that men shouldn't contribute toward domestic responsibilities, but how often do we hear that a wife "helps" around the home? Not in this article by Yasmin Mogahed and not in general really. The word "help" is usually used for men in this context and not women. Why is that? And does this difference imply that while responsibilities should be shared, the primary obligations for both genders are different?
That is the most lamest argument for supporting men's rights to sit on the couch and watch TV while wife works the home, because it's her job since she's the woman, in alllll time.
Help means to get up and help. If one has ever committed the act of helping, they know what it is.
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More or less the same en mi casa…except the kitchen and cooking is 100% my domain..and I would have it no other way 
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none whatsoever [because he is above woman]...if he does two jobs then he has a good reason.
i think if you love your wife, how can you sit idly and watch your wife do all the work and be tired. i think men should help in house chores...they do NOT deserve by birth to be treated like a king at home.
i do help my Bhaabhii around the house from doing the dishes to making salad to setting the table...simply because i LOVE my Bhaabhii! :)
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Shame on you. How dare it be a 100% when it should be a perfect 50-50 in the kitchen too. Do take out the bailan and beat your husband, so the feminists may sleep easy.
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I know, bad Khatti, right?! 
No bailan beating…I’ll just burn his roti or put salt in his chai instead of cheeni…that outta satisfy the sisterhood…after all, he’s perfectly capable of getting his chai himself haina?
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^
Shaambaady won't be gettin' floored this weekend.
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They taught that in Islamic Studies class at school, back in Pakistan
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Then why are the pakistanis the worst when it comes to this? Where does te culture of making chai and waiting on him like a waitress come from?
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Well does it make one a better Muslim woman to do 100% of the cooking?
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Well does it make one a better Muslim woman to do 100% of the cooking?
I'd want mine to do some :(. I mean there is a limit to how much takeout one can eat.