Reha
November 3, 2010, 2:51pm
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Re: Men for SALE!!
Jahez is a beautiful concept. The man is letting a woman join his family, the least she can do is bring some gifts along with her as a gesture of gratitude. And nothing says ‘thank you sartaj’ like cash, TV’aan, fridge’aan, dressing table’aan etc.
But we first need to calculate how much jahez a man is worth.
I have been through such incidences where the family liked me a lot for rishta purpose… but then the mother of the Mr Potential mentioned how she furnished full apartment for her daughter when she got married last year and gave her blah blah.. expecting my mom to assure her that my family would be doing the same to me… which we could not coz I lost my father few years back, I am the eldest child and me and all siblings are working to earn our living… (the guys side do such things very commonly although the families and the guys were all very educated and broad minded)…
however, I am sooo happy that Allah SWT did not choose such people for me… my rishta is yet to finalise and I hope I get a guy and family that do not give importance to such things and accept me the way I am and of course I plan to be the daughter of their family for life Insha Allah
my mom plans to give me clothes, gold, clothes/ gifts to in-laws etc.. Other things (furniture, cash, etc) I am not planning to take along although my mom says she would love to give me as much as possible (I usually end up fighting with her on this issue but she says she want me to have izzat and security for future)… but I really believe that if the guy accepts me for who I am and not for what I bring… I will have more izzat
The idea is if they give enough…it will buy their daughter respect. You give a furniture set as a standard but more (in fact you keep giving) if you want lifelong respect and wish for your daughter to be treated with love.