Okie..a lil update…so I told him I liked him, he said “I never though of you in that way…there is a woman in my life…who I’ve known 4-5 years and I’ll probably end up with her someday…but I’m not sure yet” (btw he always hid the fact that he had a woman in his life from me and has even lied on a few occassions so that I wouldn’t find out)
All well and good…I had moved on and now only see the guy as my pal…but…all of a sudden he now calls me every single day…that to like 3-4 times a day.
I’m confused…he wants me to come out with him and his pals all the time, inviting me for over night picnics…and I’m like..err helloo…he never used to call me out much, now he wants me around all the time. (I’ve gone out once for bowling but that’s about it)
What’s up with him? Can someone of the male species explain this behaviour?
stories yar .. when he couldnt decide WHAT to say he took the easy way out, and said he had a woman in his life..
NOW that he's sure (which he wasnt before) that u dig him, he finds it 'convenient' to come out all loving and stuff...
dont be surprized if he delivers a speech of how the woman in his life isnt DOING IT for him and there are complications, he's stressed, and you are BETTER than her..
i think u provide a way too good a shoulder to cry on and he is takin full advantage... u'll probably be outta the pic once things are settled in his life again... its not just a men thing...
i just saw u were lookin for replies from male species...
oh well.. i havent threaded in ages.. half way there
Faizy, I think not dude. Be skeptic LK. He is missing his admirer now and wants to keep you interested in him. He doesnt want to lose your affection for him, it boosts his ego.
Yeah Faizy ...I'm sorry dude but you are wrong this time, I've met the lady (when we went bowling and we talked for quite a while alone) and they've been sexually active for 3 years.
No it's just that I didn't understand why the sudden increase in interest...now I guess I do some what... he's missing his admirer..maybe even feeling guilty for not telling me about his girl...and oh yeah and I'm such an expensive gift giver...lol
No it's just that I didn't understand why the sudden increase in interest...now I guess I do some what... he's missing his admirer..maybe even feeling guilty for not telling me about his girl...and oh yeah and I'm such an expensive gift giver...lol
LK, Im surprised you havent figured it out yet.
Actually its hard to realize whats happening when its happening to you.
People, men and women like attention.
When they realize that attention isnt there anymore they'll try to figure out why and try to get it back.
He's going through that phase, it'll pass.
You just stand your ground.
Tell him his constant contacts are making you uncomfortable and that you dont go out with guys who have girlfriends.
If he has any agenda it'll come out.
If I was in that situation, I would feel like he's trying to take advantage of my weakness. He knows he has a power over you lastknightess, and he wants to keep you around to boost his ego. It reminds me of that book, "He's Just Not That Into You."
I'm not saying this guy doesn't like you. But the book gives some insight into how the male brain works and how they keep women hanging on.
