... i think most of you guppies are taking this situation too lightly...
I agree. I take marriage really seriously and I think one has to approach their married relationship with absolute devotion----and to measure their choices in life against that barometer of devotion.
I'm gori but I'm from a pretty conservative background. Growing up my dad didn't have female friends--he wasn't hanging out talking on the phone with them, going out to lunch, etc. And same thing with my mom. And I really like that about their relationship. Socializing with other couples is something I think it OK but the one-on-one friendships with the opposite gender is something I'm a little uncomfortable about. There's just too much potential for that to become the safe haven/easy way out/channel for emotional intimacy when the marriage runs into tough times.