Sheyn one reason that Men allow their parents to pick their spouse is because many of them just don’t have time to look on their own. They are either busy with studies or too focused on their careers.
Another reason may be that they just dont have a preference. Perhaps they do not know what to look for in a suitable spouse. If they do have a preference, perhaps they have already told their moms about it and their moms are keeping those preferences in mind.
Also sheyn…some men may feel that by looking on their own they may end up committing acts of sin so in order to avoid that they look to other people (most likely their parents) to do the searching.
whatever the reason may be…there is nothing wrong with a man (or a woman for that matter) to ask their parents to find a suitable partner for them.
just because marriages are arranged and they are married “til death do us part” does not mean they are successful/happy marriages.
The proposal was not always sent to the parent or guardian. Khadija (ra) sent a proposal directly to our Prophet(saw). A man is able to conduct his own business, and a woman who is widowed or divorced does not need a wali.
No, Hazrat Khadija (RA) didn't, she sent her trusted friend Nafisa with the proposal. The Prophet SAW accepted and sent his Uncles to arrange the marriage.
I actually think desi men are more keen on going down the arranged marriage route than the girls, prob because at the end of the day they are given more freedom to choose (and/or turn down if they don't like the 'potential') what she should be like whereas if a girl comes out with the same stuff (eg need to feel a 'spark' at first meeting, nice body, v.attractive face etc.) she gets labelled as fussy. Asian mothers tend to go all out to please their sons but when they're looking for boys for their daughters stuff they are after like attraction and chemistry are often thought of as not so important..
