sheyn now you will tell us about you ...what would you prefer?
^why gal.why do you feel like that.Important thing is, parents n family choice should be kept in mind.They are never wrong.
I wouldn't agree.....
Parents are human too and can sometimes make the wrong decisons too , it isn't intentional but when they try to look for their kids best interests they sometimes overlook major compatibility issues because they are concentrating on more "important" agendas !
ameen 
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This thread is abt Men & Arranged marriages 
Now I can understand in Pakistani Society girls having their marriages arranged .
What beats me is how GROWN MEN who wouldn't let their mom's choose their shirts let them choose their mates !!!!!
So guys , what makes you decide to go for an arranged marriage , what is your reasoning behind it ?
Is it just that she gave birth to you and therefore she has the right to choose cuz thats the most frequent answer I've gotten whenever I asked ?
I'm sure there is much more to it though !
Please help us understand why you would agree to an arranged marriage ?
Hi Sheyn,
You have it all wrong. An arranged marriage is not a forced marriage neither is it a non-love marriage. A truly arranged 'love' marriage is the one which is carried out with the consultations of all family members. How would you define a love marriage? A marriage when a man chooses his bride himself? What would be his criterion for such a selection? Most probably his criterion will be physical beauty. You only love people when you know them inside. To know someone needs time and one will get the time after getting married. So the true love happens only after the wedding and before that all is drama...
Hi Sheyn,
You have it all wrong. An arranged marriage is not a forced marriage neither is it a non-love marriage. A truly arranged 'love' marriage is the one which is carried out with the consultations of all family members. How would you define a love marriage? A marriage when a man chooses his bride himself? What would be his criterion for such a selection? Most probably his criterion will be physical beauty. You only love people when you know them inside. To know someone needs time and one will get the time after getting married. So the true love happens only after the wedding and before that all is drama...
**Hi Haroon , **
See i'm not referring to forced marriages , i'm asking why men willingly agree to a marriage arranged by their parents in which they do not know the girl at all beyond maybe a picture or a single meeting and happily agree to such a match.
I agree love is something that takes time to develop and for that one has to know the others flaws and be willing to compromise and adapt to those flaws.
See i'm not referring to forced marriages , i'm asking why men willingly agree to a marriage arranged by their parents in which they do not know the girl at all beyond maybe a picture or a single meeting and happily agree to such a match.
may b cuz they blv that their parents are more capable then them to make such a huge decision ....... n they totally have faith in their decision ......
Have you seen vivah movie sheyn?
**Hi Haroon , **
*See i'm not referring to forced marriages , **i'm asking why men willingly agree to a marriage arranged by their parents in which they do not know the girl at all beyond maybe a picture or a single meeting and happily agree to such a match.*
I agree love is something that takes time to develop and for that one has to know the others flaws and be willing to compromise and adapt to those flaws.
Perhaps, they are financially dependent; that's why they let their moms... Or, perhaps they are a kind of mummy-daddy chocolate boys who rarely use their brains. Or, perhaps this doesn't matter them much unless she can produce babies for them. Or, perhaps they are too much so-called religious...
may b cuz they blv that their parents are more capable then them to make such a huge decision ....... n they totally have faith in their decision ......
That could be one of the reasons , but don't you think if someone is not ready to make these decisons then are they ready to get married at all ?
Have you seen vivah movie sheyn?
No sameenji ......what's the movie about ?
to tell you the truth since u had asked what i would want then I plan to settle for a love marriage that is arranged !
That could be one of the reasons , but don't you think if someone is not ready to make these decisons then are they ready to get married at all ?
No sameenji ......what's the movie about ?
to tell you the truth since u had asked what i would want then I plan to settle for a love marriage that is arranged !
Well the flick is about arranged marriage.The way people fall in love with time in case of arranged marriage.
Shahid n amrita looked really cute
That could be one of the reasons , but don't you think if someone is not ready to make these decisons then are they ready to get married at all ?
No sameenji ......what's the movie about ?
to tell you the truth since u had asked what i would want then I plan to settle for a love marriage that is arranged !
But you said you are allergic to love and u do not believe in love and that its all in ur mind and not in heart :@: ....... remember ????????
If you love with mind, its not love. Its more of a business. The relation will be over as soon as you face some kind of loss in business.
interesting points 
Is it a nice movie …worth watching ?
Amrita is cute :k:
FT…if u don’t love with ur mind as well as your heart , it won’t last in the long run…that was my point 
This movie made us laugh like hell. Such a bore movie… and actually the dialogues were extremely faaltoo. Jisay zabardasti trying to make something emotional n touchy and romantic.
Re: Men & Arranged Marriages
Erm…arrange marriage?
Be it love marriage or arrange marriage…both are suicide 
It’s like asking whether suicide is better or being murder 
OH YEAH, now thats whasup 
Re: Men & Arranged Marriages
;) At least you agree with me :D
**Hi Haroon , **
See i'm not referring to forced marriages , i'm asking why men willingly agree to a marriage arranged by their parents in which they do not know the girl at all beyond maybe a picture or a single meeting and happily agree to such a match.
I agree love is something that takes time to develop and for that one has to know the others flaws and be willing to compromise and adapt to those flaws.
Nop it's not only the picture and one meeting. They investigate everything. And during this investigation they find things which they value and have importance.
If you are mom (I don't know about you) If you were mom then you would know a mom can understand his son better than other.
Like a mom and/or father, brothers and sisters know better about his/her son/brother so they can find girl who meets what the whole family and son/brother need.