I dont like the idea...its fine being civil with them and stuff but naturally you want to move on...there is a reason why things ended...i didnt get to know her to be friends with her so why would i bother now...they are two different things...
only time you stay friends is if you are hoping that things might work out again or you arent clear whether you made the right decision in finishing the relationship...lol the amount of times i have seen girls get back together with their exes who they remained friends with pisses me off...if im trying to get a girl and her ex in the picture its a no go zone thats my experience cos there is still some unfinished business...and the fact is the ex was a big fixture in their life so they may have strong feelings for them...it doesnt help with them moving on...i was warned against girls with baggage but hey you make your mistakes...
when you finish something do it properly...im not saying not talk to them again...especially if you have been together a long time...that is not a nice thing to do but bringing closure is the best thing to do...my best friend broke up with his girl of 3 years last year...they're trying to be friends but the fact is its a matter of time before they get back together...they are friends because neither was genuinely sure whether they wanted the finish...neither has moved on because they still have each other around simple...
Pinstripe Danda...
If your girl was still close to her ex of three years...wouldnt that bother you?...
Keeping friendships with a fling is a different because they werent particularly significant but surely if they are keeping friendships with someone who they shared a bond with and love, it would bother you no?
PCG...
I genuinely have no idea what you are referring...i dont what you mean by my baggage...what baggage exactly?...please elaborate...
When i referred to the girl having baggage...i was referring to the girl keeping the ex around...she still ring him and chat...they would still bloody meet up...that for me is baggage...if you have broken up with him then break up with him properly...she got back together with him and this naturally pissed me off cos i should have known better...she had shared a lot with him and wasnt ready to move on...so what happened happened...i dont think im being bad if i desire a girl who has no relations with her ex...
Like PCG Im sure you wouldnt be comfortable with your boyfriend meeting his ex and keeping close ties with her?...so why be critical of me when i desire the same for myself?
acha after geting so much bashed for the incidents ive already shared im still determined to be nagged on lol
almost a year back i walked into this indian chick in school n there were only 4 paki guys n 1 indian and 1 paki chick in the whole school ohhh ! and trust me it was a TYPICAL DESI MOVIE SCENE .. yea yea we both looked back at the same time, smiled n walked away. no verbal communication xept when i said MA-BAD and she said OHHH!-I-M-SRY anyways, i thought RAAT GAI BAAT GAI lol .. but then i noticed she changed her class rotes instead of cuting through court-yard she started walking on the hall-way where we 3 desi use to gather after every odd period. it was quite funny .. my frienz noticed her staring at me n giving me those cute smiles lol and then she told one of my frienz to let me know too ha ha .. kasme ! and after nothing worked out she actualy told ma sister that she likes me khooti na ho to but to bad ! my sister didnt like her anyways so yea now its been almost 2 yrs we in the same school .. see eachother everyday but still have never COMMUNICATED as such. everytime we talked it was abt studies even when she invited me to her party i didnt show up .. so, now her cute smiles have turned into rusty old gusse wala face .. she give me this look like she iss saying ** U FAG LOOSER .. TALK TO ME BYAATCH ** lol
m sry but seriously u reminded me of her .. and yar trust me guls are realy dramatic and fantasized .. i mean comon we guys like to semi-flirt to make u laugh n have some good time but it seriously dont mean the end of the world.
if u don't want him to be friend with u then simply report to ani-terrorism ppl. they'll take care of him for you :D na rahay ga bans, na bajay ga baja :p
lol… i have no idea what any of those are. booty call, fk buddy hahahhaa.
i think what i was referring to is that sometimes you find out a new side of the gal after becoming intimate. and i am sure gals might notice a change with guys too. like he might be really nice before and not so nice after.
there is so many things that gals do only after intimacy. for example some gals try to give you the ‘guilt trips’ like the ones cat woman refers to. some girls become overly possessive and chipkoo after becoming intimate. and you might not agree with me but there are some who become intimate just to scare the guy into getting them married with them. i suggest if any girls want to try the last trick try it with men not older than 22.
but there are some who do not change before and after. who like u for who you really are no strings attached. those are keepers and marriage material in my opinion.
I thought those were the girls you trick into going out with you and then you throw them away like toilet paper after using them. And u know what I mean by “using”.
lollypop well i have a wake up call for you - any self-respecting desi girl who gets physically involved with a guy would expect it to go somewhere.
At the same time though, i dont want to waste my time with a guy - thats the bottom line. i aint gonna stick around while he gets what he wants without committing - uh uh no sireee it dont work like that. And id be pretty honest right from the start - its all or nothing buddy.
^ The tricky part is when they lie to you and tell you that they will go all the way, and then they run off after they get what they want.
Its not just telling them all or nothing. Its telling them to get their sorry behinds to your home, with mithai and gold sets and silks and their parents and tow and ASK your parents for your hand in marriage. And they should also have a ring with them to put on the spot if need be.
^ ha. yeah you're right. I've already decided now that with any future prospects if I meet one myself, I'll tell him, if you want us to communicate any further, you'll have to go through my parents first. And if he ducks and dives, that'll be my sign that hes not serious.
Yep, pretty much. You'll find that the older ones will be more willing to talk to your parents. Because their age is slipping, and they know they have to settle down. These 20 odd year olds are just wanting a good time.
i have to agree with the boys here: desi girls’ are such weirdooos when it comes to men. just be upfront and honest about how u are seeking marriage and no “special friend”, no “booty call friend”, no “fk buddy”. let the man know that u equate
intimacy with Marriage. once the guy is clear about ur expectation(s) he will gracefully move on… or happily stay with ya. it’s that simple.
seriously dolls…get past the mathai dabaa and lenga design at the first handshake and be bold enough to communicate!
I'm bold enough to communicate and be honest with my intentions. Its the wussy, cowardly men of today that are the problem. Strong men with sound morals and values are getting harder to come by.
Hum, comment is nice but in reality the opposite has been seen. Men go all the way to the end but it is the women who have many “Majboorian” that they cannot committ to many bold and strong men…
And another advice. You may be right while you write this but trust me, when time will come, you’ll act the very opposite. In the real situation, you’ll care for things other than your own self, words and intentions… Thats what women are “in majority”
Sometimes, I wonder how you come with these assumptions about men. Men are the only one wanting these types of relationships not women? I think whenever there is a break-up women are more likely to be friends with their ex than men.
I think you have a issue that after sex between men and women relationship changes…well, honey that’s not the case. Sex is just a part of realtionship not the base. Trust and respect is, do you know that 70% of the women fail to reach orgasm via penetrative sex while they are with their husbands/boyfriends? Women change too after they get married or old…the reason couples stick together is because of trust and respect.
Now to fk buddies…there is nothing wrong (excluding religion, culture) with this. You have two friends who know each other and want the best. Emotions are the things people are scared of investing with others, people to whom they think their emotions and insecurites are protected they have sex with. Usually what happens is someone has gone through a divorce or break-up and is in no need for commitment. Sex is a need and that’s what friends do…helping friends in need.
frontier_charm, agree. samjaho in larkion ko kuch.
pcg and cat_woman, why cant you guys be more like frontier_charm haaN???? not everyone wants to propose after seeing you. just be nice to the guy for a change.... do not try to over smart him. we men might look dumb but we aint. we see right through ur little games aight.
khooti na ho to but to bad ! my sister didnt like her anyways 
so yea now its been almost 2 yrs we in the same school .. see eachother everyday but still have never COMMUNICATED as such. everytime we talked it was abt studies 
.. she give me this look like she iss saying ** U FAG LOOSER .. TALK TO ME BYAATCH ** lol
