men and gift giving

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hmmmm…tell TLK to take some chockies or sweets for his kids this time unless it’s not a birthday event or any other special ocassion when he can buy a gift for his friend.

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There are occasions for gifts. If he was going to see his old teacher perhaps or visiting some Moroccan friend, then of course a gift is needed.

And friends don't care if someone brought a gift and others did not. Perhaps the wives care, in which case forgive my ignorance.

Scenerio... Old friends meet after a long time. They will NOT GOSSIP about, e.g.:

A*li: yaar, Amir brought me a gift and Tariq did not.
Qasim: yes, something fishy going on.
Talha: Perhaps he didn't like what you said about his shirt back in 1998.....
*

A more realistic discussion would revolve around someone Talha had a crush on back in 1998.

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hehehe....right. Anyway, my point was that nothing wrong in exchanging gifts between two male friends regardless of the special ocassion scenario.

Gaza Under attack
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:omg:

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You see how all the males who have replied share the same opinions upon this topic? This is proof TLK is a bit ‘special’ :halo:

sorrynikkydon’tbeatmeupaboutit :frowning:

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Niksik... make something yummy (desi food) and send it with him :p

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Yes yes I am listening. I am in agreement with all the guys. You all are right. I will probably take them out for drinks (ahemm ... lassi I mean) ...

48

^ Make u're TLK special daal and take along a BIG bottle of Eno, ENJOY! :@:

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hahahah,

i think lunch/dinner is the best option

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See how women have ruined the thread just like they derail the topic when it comes to giving gift to men :)

51

giving a gift is fine when the guy gets married or has a kid, etc because the gift is more for the couple than just the friend. but other than that, it's kinda gay. just pay for dinner or something. now that's a real gift he won't soon forget.

if you were a saalan(shorba)
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No gift giving. BUT if I am meeting with friends after a long time I would definitely pay for their food if we were to meet up at a restaurant. And if your meeting up at a friend's place, just take some sweets so all can enjoy (this is not a gift).

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I am flying to another city, 4 others are flying in, plus the host .... that is 6 guys. I dont mind paying for a meal host's wife would who might be preparing biryani pulaao for all of us. Then again ee may have ony 4 meals together as its a weekend trip and we are 6 guys so what if everyone wants to do that. We'll see how it goes.

Time Pass - جولائی - رمضان کا مہینہ
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never take gifts and never give any…simple…although teh idea of dining out aint bad either…:chai:

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Since when has the "giving of gifts" been confined to only one gender?

Giving a gift doesn't make a guy "less" of a man. I've seen desi and even NON-DESI guys (yes, even those that are young).........give gifts. And by "young guys"....I don't mean 7-year-old boys attending their male classmate's birthday party. I mean guys in their twenties, for example. AND YES........they ARE...STRAIGHT!

It could depend on how you give the gift. If a guy is going to clasp his hands, bat his eyelashes, and flip his wrist while bashfully telling his homies, "Yoohoo, I bought you boys some gifts. I was shopping at the mall the other day and thinking about you guys and how much you mean to me. And I saw this sweater........and it just has your name written all over it. And I thought it would bring out the color of your eyes. Just a little something for y'all to remember me by!"

^ Now THAT is weird.

But if a man....let's say brings some food as a "gift"........he can casually say, "Yo...I brought you all some grub" (followed by hacking up phlegm, burping, scratching of belly, and farting loudly before putting gift on table*)................and that looks alright. Or let's say he picks up some decoration pieces........he can casually say.........."I saw these at a store.....and picked up a few cuz they were interesting/cool."* Not much detail is necessary.

^Giving a gift doesn't necessarily have to be an over-the-top emotional experience where you use flowery words and blush. One can manage to make it appear casual....cool....laid-back.....and still not end up scathing their masculinity.

Or if the word "gift" or "present" seems too feminine...........think of it as a just a "kind gesture" then.

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I would listen to the only men who have posted here (if kakaballi, CM, Decent6Chora, aahmed, Uzziel, samb, and cricketplaya are men).

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I've seen men give gifts......they don't think a kind gesture lessens their masculinity. They feel secure about showing consideration toward others of their own gender. Once again, there are few factors to consider such has who the gift is given to and how it's given. Giving a gift to a stranger would be awkward.

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I am late here :-(

No gift of any sort between men. However, Niksik can send something for the woman of the house who is cooking, or children.

Best gift among men would be to make the event memorable by any means
such as talking about the old days.

As for paying for meal, this should be decided 'before' getting there as a formal invitation. Since not only it looks a bit silly to argue or insist at a diner but it may break someone's heart. TLK can search good places in surroundings and make a reservation. This could be a brunch after late night gathering. Perhaps let other guys pay for something else.

And it goes without saying, use a camera.

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Sorry couldn't read the entire thread, I wouldn't take any gift for an old friend. Taking time out and meeting up with them should be good enough.

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Sara this is on two occasions you have questioned if I am a man or not. I am more than happy to prove it if need be!