Chameli,
I recently read a book that dealt with how to move on from people who have treated you wrong. And according to this book, it's a common myth that "closure" will solve everything. The author, who is also a psychologist, suggests that sometimes its hard to get closure from the person that hurt you because you're unable to contact them for whatever reason. And other times, the offender doesn't believe that they have hurt you.
Also, people think that if their offender says, "Sorry", things will magically be better. Usually, this doesn't help. Because the word, "sorry" is just a quick-fix and doesn't undo the injustice you went through. For a BRIEF **time, you might feel relieved that you **FINALLY got your apology........but then in the future you might start thinking about the past again. You can't undo the past. It's like ripping off a bandaid and letting yourself bleed again. But you can move on from it.
So.....as the author suggests.......YOU **GIVE YOURSELF CLOSURE!** YOU LIBERATE YOURSELF. YOU MAKE THE DECISION TO MOVE ON AND STICK TO IT. Also, it's good to focus on the positive. What this guy did to you made **YOU **a **STRONGER WOMAN **who eventually married a GOOD MAN. So this hurtful past brought with it growth, strength, and peace even.
Now, let's talk about the guy's parents. First of all, what his parents did was wrong. They lied to their own son, so that means they don't have respect for their own son. And if they treated YOU **and **THEIR OWN SON **so unfairly.........then most likely they will treat their current daugther-in-law like **CRAP **as well. Think about it, Chameli. Can you imagine the lies and the **FITNAH his parents would commit against you if you were married to him? If his parents have indeed played dirty, then rest assured, that they will get their just treatment from Allah. What goes around comes around.
Now let's talk about the guy. Is it really mature for a guy to end things with a girl via text message? I'm sorry, but that says a lot about his character. He should at least have enough respect for a woman to end the relationship in person. Do you want to be with a guy who can't even communicate in a mature fashion? This guy is also not an open-minded person. An open-minded and intelligent person listens to his parents' views......then listens to his girlfriend's side of the story......then contemplates the information.....and compares things BEFORE **making a decision. Instead this guy just **BLINDLY listened to his parents without giving you a fair chance. What does that tell you about him? It basically tells you that he is neither fair-minded nor mature. And he also doesn't have courage. And you need these **3 **qualities in a marriage.
As Iggle suggested, you should turn to Allah and pray to find relief from the shaitan's whispers. Allah gave you a wonderful husband.........so think of this situation as a TEST **from Allah. Maybe Allah wants to see if you are going to be weak enough to give into your temptations and be ungrateful for what you have.......or if you're going to be strong and value the blessings you have and move on. It's your decision, Chameli. Life is more about making choices than it is about getting closure. **Provide your own closure.
Consider the consequences of connecting with him. It might open a gateway of problems. He might start pursuing you....or you might start pursuing him. And in the end......it's going to be your **loss, more than his. Even if you tell this guy the TRUTH** about what his parents did, is it going to change anything? He can't leave his wife and daughter. Stay strong in your faith and move on from this.
When people do wrong, what goes around eventually comes around in some way or the other. And the BEST REVENGE......is being HAPPY with your current situation.