I just have to share this with someone. Cant talk to anyone around about this…
I just saw some pictures on facebook on a friend’s profile and accidently saw pictures of my ex/1st love’s wife and daughter. His daughter is so adorable and looks like him. It just awoke so many feelings in me.
I feel bad cuz I am married and shouldn’t start missing someone who left me cuz his parents lied to him about me and my family.
I feel like crying… why don’t these memories disappear? I am married to such a wonderful man and I love him so much. Then why do I keep thinking of another man who was in my life so many years ago. It was 11 years ago that we met and it has been ages since we stopped talking.
Why do I sometimes feel like having a last conversation with him to tell him that he hurt me so much. He ended it all by sending me a text message 8 years ago and we never spoke after that. I feel that this chapter hasn’t been closed properly…
Its natural to remember your ex'. But what's done is done - you just have to accept your past. Don't ever think to have that conversation with him. It will just upset you more and create an unbalance in your family life and possibly in your ex's life too.
Just pray for him and that he is always happy with his family - then let go of him gracefully and then focus on yourself, your family and enjoy your married life.
Its natural to remember your ex'. But what's done is done - you just have to accept your past. Don't ever think to have that conversation with him. It will just upset you more and create an unbalance in your family life and possibly in your ex's life too.
Just pray for him and that he is always happy with his family - then let go of him gracefully and then focus on yourself, your family and enjoy your married life.
:)
I accepted the fact that it was over very soon after he ended it. I just sometimes miss him and feel like talking to him about what happened and why he believed in all the lies.
Alhamdulillah I am blessed with a good husband and many other blessings around me and wont switch him or anything with going back to the life I once was dreaming of.
I perfectly understand why we didnt get married and what was meant for me was much better for me.
^ I think when that happens, get on your payer mat and pray. Its the devil's work here who is bringing in your ex's memories into your mind.
I understand you can't get rid of memories and that you are hurt - but you are married now Chameli. You owe your full heart to your Husband. Think about how your Husband would feel knowing you desire another man or that you have feelings of missing him.
When you think of your ex - pray, read a kalima etc. Ask Allah Ta'lah swt to help you forget him and to help make your marriage even more wonderful.
Realistically speaking, you can do nothing to change this. He was never yours and you were never his - and you were just never meant to marry eachother.
Mend those broken wounds quickly and be a stronger person now! Have kids yourself. :)
Realistically speaking, you can do nothing to change this. He was never yours and you were never his - and you were just never meant to marry eachother.
Mend those broken wounds quickly and be a stronger person now! Have kids yourself. :)
yeah i think that seeing his kid having his looks made me feel that she could have been our daughter....
u r right..no need to cry over this..it was never meant to be....
should focu on my own life and having kids myself:)
Woud you rather be with a man who respects you and treats you well - or with a man who sent you a text mesage ending it all?! Your ex is your ex for a good reason!
You should be glad you didn't have kids with such a guy! Lol! :)
Woud you rather be with a man who respects you and treats you well - or with a man who sent you a text mesage ending it all?! Your ex is your ex for a good reason!
You should be glad you didn't have kids with such a guy! Lol! :)
I know:D you are sooo right. and deep down i know that it was sooooo good for me not to get married with him.
perhaps its the feeling of being rejected...
when something just ends abruptly with no reason or with very little of it, ure left thinking huh? you want to be sure that whatever doesnt work out was because of strong reasons behind it, or any for that matter.. i dont think you got that.. a txt saying we cant be together anymore is not enuff.. a chat face to face or even a telephone call would have been better. gotten all feelings out into the open.
when something just ends abruptly with no reason or with very little of it, ure left thinking huh? you want to be sure that whatever doesnt work out was because of strong reasons behind it, or any for that matter.. i dont think you got that.. a txt saying we cant be together anymore is not enuff.. a chat face to face or even a telephone call would have been better. gotten all feelings out into the open.
I agree with you. but I never had the chance to do so. I was so angry at him. I changed my phone number right after he ended it and he sometimes e-mailed me just to ask how I was doing.
I didnt want to have contact with him cuz he already was engaged a few weeks after he ended it with.
I got forced married in PK cuz my parents found out about him and wouldnt let me travel back home fearing that I might find somebody else out of the caste (like that guy). So I had many personal issues going on for a very long time untill I got my divorce paper.
Even after that my mind was so full and tired. I guess I am finally recovering from all I have gone through and therefore have this need to clean my system from his memories.
Talking to him would perhaps help me closing this but I dont feel like contacting a married guy. i feel i will betray my husband if i did so and that I never want to do.....