Such a long ‘religious’ post and despite going on about the dupatta you conveniently don’t mention living in a joint family setup is discouraged and if there are non-mehrams living there it becomes haram - but I guess that didn’t fit in with your idea of laying the blame on the woman and how she dresses (loved your wording on how the male servant hadn’t been ‘taught’ it’s wrong to stare as if it can’t be explained to someone)..
In Islam a woman’s home is supposed to be a place where she can relax and feel comfortable. No non-desi scholar will ever say she should have to cover her hair and full body practically all day, every dayindoors when the real answer would be to give her more privacy (if she or the family is religious either move out or give her more space/privacy where she can let her hair down +always ensure family members of the opp sex knock when they enter a room..
Your post is one-sided and sends out the wrong msg that it’s only the woman’s responsibility to behave and act ‘decently’ as well as the obvious other cutural bias in not mentioning the extended/joint family setup.. Fair enought to those who choose to live that way but then don’t sit and moan about how ppl are acting ‘too relaxed’ etc. and if you have a problem with freemixing that should apply to both sexes..