Re: Mehram Precautions
I keep re reading this post right now because I dont understand how people are misinterpreting what R.A.W. wants to say. Perhaps his expression might be slightly off but not enough to disguise the intent behind his words. And above in the highlighted portion I believe he has expressed a point perfectly.
Most of us come from loving families mA who protect us from external threats as much as possible. And for that reason, young girls do not develop a thought process which allows them to consider that family members, cousins, uncles etc etc might be capable of any sort of lewd thought. Girls’ minds remain innocent of such antics. Therefore they may be** more relaxed in front of members of extended family who fall into na mehram category** as compared to in front of non relative males who also fall into na mehram category.
And all R.A.W. I believe is trying to impart is that there is great wisdom in the Quran and Islamic teachings about who actually is mehram and who isn’t and that with all na mehrams girls should be advised to maintain the same attitude, whether they are related to that na mehram or not. So girls should be taught to take as many precautionary measures as possible in front of na mehrams. There is** NO cousin who is like a brother. Cousins are NOT** na mehram.
Therefore if a girl is able to go in front of her brothers without her dobatta, albeit in loose clothiing which covers her well, say for instance in her PJs, she shouldn’t do so in front of a cousin, even if the cousin in question is “like a brother” and has been living in the same house in a joint family system