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the underlining intention for mehr is the same as the intention for prayers/zakat/ and all other Orders
idea behind mehr is if a man divorces a women she must be able to support herself and not start living on the streets ...
no...I think uzair makes a valid point..... what do you folks think was the intention behind mehr? what purpose did it serve?
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Salaam,
What is the normal amount to keep for Mehr at the time of nikkah? and when is it due to pay? Thanks !
there is no set amount but Scholars say that amount should be enough to have wife live the same life style, that she was living with her hubby, for at least 6 months - in case of divorce.
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No fixed amount. Depends on the parties getting married. Well-to-do people can have big mehr and those who can't afford can have smaller. It is to be agreed before the nikah so both the parties need to agree on an amount which can be paid by the groom immediately and/ or sometime later.
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I strongly disapprove the idea of mehar amount like RS 32, $1, wheat price. 
it is your big day, and you should set it in such a manner that she can survive in case of divorce.
It should be decent amount of money where both parties can feel happiness and pride.
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the underlining intention for mehr is the same as the intention for prayers/zakat/ and all other Orders
idea behind mehr is i*f a man divorces a women she must be able to support herself and not start living on the streets* ...
women can support themselves these days. they are financially independent, get educated, have careers.
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I mean 2 say i have heard that in islam mehr depends on the price of wheat in that era when wedding is its not 4 security of women according 2 islam but now a days ppl think by writing huge amount 4 mehr they l secure their future of daughter
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I mean 2 say i have heard that in islam mehr depends on the price of wheat in that era when wedding is its not 4 security of women according 2 islam but now a days ppl think by writing huge amount 4 mehr they l secure their future of daughter
i m neither suggesting huge amount. but should be reasonable enough which can protect a women in case of divorce.
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I mean 2 say i have heard that in islam mehr depends on the price of wheat in that era when wedding is its not 4 security of women according 2 islam but now a days ppl think by writing huge amount 4 mehr they l secure their future of daughter
Rs 32.50 was not the price of wheat. In those days, Rs 32.50 was the price of gold, a little under 7.5 tola. Purpose was to have enough amount in her ownership so she is not obligated to give out zakat.
Now that amount is ridiculous. If someone wants to follow the mehr-e-sahar'ee then the person needs to set it as the price of 7.4 tola of gold
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Rs 32.50 was not the price of wheat. In those days, Rs 32.50 was the price of gold, a little under 7.5 tola. Purpose was to have enough amount in her ownership so she is not obligated to give out zakat.
Now that amount is ridiculous. If someone wants to follow the mehr-e-sahar'ee then the person needs to set it as the price of 7.4 tola of gold
today 1gm gold in us market is around $54
and 1 tola = 11 gm
7.4 * 11 * 54 = $4395 is sharie haq maher in today date.
$1 = Rs. 86
Rs. 378,021 is islami haq maher in today date.
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My mehr was 50 k (US) ..... it's a right given to the woman and she can ask for as much as she wants ,
there is no limit to the mahr or recommended amount , nor is anyone allowed to take that from her .
It can be given anytime after nikkah , instalments , paid right out . If the husband dies i believe the remaining mahr left unpaid is taken
from the husbands assets and handed to the wife before any other inheritance payments are made.
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Salaam,
What is the normal amount to keep for Mehr at the time of nikkah? and when is it due to pay? Thanks !
Mehr is up to the couple to decide. Like in Prophet PBUH days , mehr had been declared a silver ring or some piece of clothing.Times have changed so whatever groom can easily pay to the bride. Marriage isnt about the mehr but mehr is a form of security given to the wives in case anything goes wrong (or even if it doesnt, its a gift to her from the groom.)
Mehr can be paid at the time of nikah or the other way is that groom pays a part of it at nikah time and rest at later times.
And if u are asking how much should u declare then salary of a month or 2?
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women can support themselves these days. they are financially independent, get educated, have careers.
oo ok
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women can support themselves these days. they are financially independent, get educated, have careers.
Just because women CAN do more does not mean you are relieved of your responsibility. Educated women don't shirk their roles in their households so what makes you think you can?
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women can support themselves these days. they are financially independent, get educated, have careers.
don't you know..when it comes to financial responsiblites.....islam takes over .......and when it comes to other responsibilities....islam takes the backseat???
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^Yeah, just like the men making their wives live with her inlaws ;)
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^so you agree with my statement.......albeit with another statement in comparison..cool
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You know what gets me about men these days is they want it all...total package.
She must be educated, sughaR, good looking, nice, sweet, innocent, a virgin, a good cook, must work and support herself, must live with inlaws, must not ask for anything, must do housework so we can fire the maid, give birth, be a good mother to the kids, be a good DIL, bring jahaiz, forget her own parents kyun ke ab to vo parai hogayi hai, etc etc etc. And all the while she has to maintain her figure so her husband doesn't cheat on her with someone much less attractive. The bar just keeps getting higher and higher and we need to be able to do it ALL.
But when it comes to discussions like these, men take advantage of women working so hard. In some ways, its great women are doing so well but in some ways...its made men lazy and less manly.
SOME (not all) guys these days are just a tutu short of being arm candy.
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it takes for very naive women to sign up for that sh*t.
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Yeah.. and I did actually agree with another one of your statements on GS today but I’ve totally forgotten what it was and even what thread it was in
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it takes for very naive women to sign up for that sh*t.
That sh*t is a very basic requirement for most Pakistani men.