Salaam,
What is the normal amount to keep for Mehr at the time of nikkah? and when is it due to pay? Thanks !
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I have no idea what normal is but I think there should be a clause to pay at a certain time.
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32 Rupay 50 paisay 
Its required to be paid at the time of Nikaah…but ‘some’..‘traditional in-laws’…expect you to give it back to them…
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100 k in Pak currency should be fine thesedays !
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it can depend on family wealth, how much other family members have given for mehr, intention (as in some people accept $1 mehr as a symbol). ive more often seen mehr's between $5k-$50k, where the latter was offered by more wealthier families.
You are required to pay on day of nikkah, and if not, the wife can ask for it at any point in her lifetime.
i might be wrong, anyone else?
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:k:
Naabigh is right. it should be more than 100k and less than 150k pk rs.
There are two types of mehar
- Moajjal - it should pay immediately.
- Ghair Moajjal - you can pay it with flexibility.
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i have heard it depends on price of wheat n it should be paid at nikah after nikah at soon as possible n it should not b returned 2 in laws
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The amount can be anything actually. And there are two types muajjal and ghair muajjal. Paid immediately or with flexibility. It's tricky about it's payment, some write muajjal and dont pay immediately even so. Tricky cos, then what is the bride to do if she wants it? Ask for it? That's just so weird.
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There is no set amount. It can be as low as you want, or as high as you want. It can be money, it can also be gold, or property, but it has to have monetary value. It is the brides choice what she wants, if she is asking for payment at the Nikkah she should be sensitive to what the groom can afford at that time. However, it can also be a deferred amount, and the bride can ask for however much she wants, but it will be paid to her whenever she asks for it at a later date.
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The amount can be anything actually. And there are two types muajjal and ghair muajjal. Paid immediately or with flexibility. It's tricky about it's payment, some write muajjal and dont pay immediately even so. Tricky cos, then what is the bride to do if she wants it? Ask for it? That's just so weird.
Yeah and one thing I'd like to point out to people is that you'd think since there is an agreement + signatures on it, it would be a legal document.
Unless there is a time limit specified on it, its not something any court will rule in favor of based on the wording I've seen. Its too vague.
So women who actually have a right to their mehr...do not get it.
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^^^^ Yes so if you are writing ghair muajjal, ie with flexibility, make sure to write the date when it should be paid also!
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The mehr should never be asked for back. It's a Muslim Woman Haq/right and it belongs to here to do whatever she wants to do with it. (hence why its called Haq Mehr)
I don't think there is a set amount for a minimum Mehr but the bride must be considerate of the grooms financial circumstances.
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100k ... are you outta ur mind? more than 60% of the pakistan dont even have that kind of income
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should be affordable
preferred if it is paid up front prior to consummation of the nikah
suggested amount is often 3 months worth salary for the groom
exorbitant amounts are ridiculous because 1. they are used to provide a false sense of security and 2. if, Allah forbid, something should go wrong, are never paid out anyways.
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and what is the significance of this thing in this day and age, besides being a religious formality ?
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LOL i like your comment
whats the sig of prayer/.../... besides being a religious formality right?
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^
prayer is for worshiping God and making Him happy. there you go.
now tell me what is the significance of mehr when women are educated, independent and not marrying for shecurity and shtability? or am I being presumptuous ?
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^ prayer is for worshiping God and making Him happy. there you go. now tell me what is the significance of mehr when women are educated, independent and not marrying for shecurity and shtability? or am I being presumptuous ?
I think significance is pretty obvious...no one needs to spell it out for you. If you however try to question it so you don't have to do it, that is a different story.
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no...I think uzair makes a valid point.....
what do you folks think was the intention behind mehr?
what purpose did it serve?
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please God directly or indirectly its still a religious formality ...??
both concept of mehr as well as prayer were made and introducted to us by the same One God
doesnt matter if it for Him or His people
^ prayer is for worshiping God and making Him happy. there you go. now tell me what is the significance of mehr when women are educated, independent and not marrying for shecurity and shtability? or am I being presumptuous ?