Before I start; I know this topic has been beaten to death and I’ve always followed the discussions but I guess you never REALLY think about it unless you yourself are experiencing it.
To be blunt and to the point, I feel I’m emotionally ready to meet someone and settle down, or in other words, to get married!
(And now comes the ‘but’) but I don’t know how to meet guys and ‘approach’ them. I’m the next one in my family to get married so everyone around me is keeping their eyes open. I know my mother wants me to go out and meet people (she says aggar kissi ne poochna hota to abb takk pooch chukkay hotay ) but I honestly don’t know how to. Bleah.
I know there are plenty of girls here on GS who are in their twenties (thirties?) and single. How do you ‘deal’ with it? Are you meeting people or do you trust your parents to come up with a rishta?
And what about guys? You ‘always’ hear that they trust their mum to come up with a larki and that’s that. What if you met a girl ‘click’ with, would you take the first step? What are the ‘unwritten’ rules? (yes I’m totally clueless)
ALright that’s about it for now. I like to keep this a serious discussion and wish to learn a thing or two.
Tell me a little about yourself. Likes/dislikes, so I can tell you where to go and where to meet like minded people. I assume this query means that you are not against the "love' before marriage option. S.H.O.C.K.E.D
you say that for the girls they have to look by themselves for boys. Whereas the boys ask their moms to look for a girl. This way boys and girls won't ever meet. My advice would be to you: go meet moms of boys!! I suggest you go and spend more time with aunties etc inquiring about their sons
Hahha, no I'm not against love before marriage (yes I know very shocking)
Likes and dislikes, hmmmmmmmm. U mean generally or about the opposite gender?
Waise I forgot to mention one rather important thing. I'm not staying in Holland, I want to move away. SO I'm actually 'looking' across the border which ofcourse makes all of this a 'little bit' mroe complicated. sigh (I might aswell just give up) I'm not the biggest socialiser.
Nessie, I didn't say that! I know not every guy meets someone through their mum but let's face it, most of the times that is how it goes in our culture!
And no, not Belgium (that's even tinier than Holland!)
Ambition
multicultural proclivities
Intellect
Economic standing
Religion (I must add that marrying a non-muslim is a 'no can't do')
Physical appearance
Educational background
Location
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Ambition
multicultural proclivities
Intellect
Economic standing
Religion (I must add that marrying a non-muslim is a 'no can't do')
Physical appearance
Educational background
Location
(that was a really tough one!)
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I will choose two things and see if you want to change the order.
Educational background is lower yet Ambition is the highest. Seems a bit odd to me.
Secondly, interesting you changed the religion thing so I would let it go. If you met a person who had all these qualities and not one or two, would you consider?
You might want to consider making religion number 1 then.
Matsui, that list isn’t going to work for me. I get confused by just looking at it! Maybe I don’t know what’s important to me and what’s not. All of this requires too much thinking
I guess what I was looking for when I opened this thread was maybe first hand experiences?!
) but I honestly don’t know how to. Bleah.
