I’m sure many of you have met up with friends you’ve made over the internet. It’s a really good way to meet people and make friends. There have been quite a few gupshup meetings as well. I just wanted to know what have your experiences been like? Have the people had the same personalities in real life? Was it a bit awkward and uneasy at first? Did you maintain the relationships with those people? Or was it just a waste of time? I’ve met quite a few people on different occassions and it was quite nice each time but nerve-racking all the same and I found that it’s just not as exciting after you’ve actually met the person. One incident was a real disaster, which I deeply regret.
cheese cakes have no experince in such matters....
i will cry for u
i will steal for u
i will kill for u
i will get on ma knees and hands and beg ma love for u
i will take this knife and bleed my aching heart out for u
i will sell ma soul for somthing pure and true
some one like U.
Its only if you fantasize too much before meeting that there is chance of dissappointment.
If for long time you converse with the person a lot ,you build yourself for surprise b/c the more clearly you visualize the person ,the greater the surprise & hence the dissapointment.
If you have very minimium preconception like this person hopefully will have 4 limbs 2 eyes & may or may not a brain.Then you are almost assured of getting more than you expect which may seem like a bonus compared to expecting someone to be 6’10" 180 lbs with 6 pack ab. 0 body fat yada yada yada
btw the same principle holds for boy friend on blind date ,marriages arranged by relatives ,etc.Start from the bottom & llok up instead down from up
H.Roshan, you may be right, but I always tell myself to expect the very worst. So far, I’ve had really pleasant experiences except for one particular one. But you’re right, these people are human after all. I think everyone has some expectations though. And yes I think it’s better to have chatted to the person for a long period of time so that you know them better.
Sometimes I find myself babbling non-stop in order to keep the conversation going or I just sit there dumbfounded with my knees shaking.
i’ve met a few ppl off the net…some guppies…and it has alwayz been an awesome experience…most of the ppl are pretty much the same in real life as they are on the net…however, there are exceptions…and i’ve had a bad experience as well…yea, just try and have minimal expectations when u meet someone…usually that works
I have met a few people in the past. The experiences ranged from terrible to wonderful. Majority of the time the experiences were not very pleasant(with guys), due to expectations I suppose. Meeting girls has always been pleasant. Anyway, its not really something I do now, and if I do decide to do it again, I will be SURE to invite a friend over for dinner with the family. I DO NOT recommend meeting people by yourself. smile
Learn to love yourself, then learn to love one-another
Meeting queer was the biggest disaster i have ever been thru. He left his wallet home--intentionally--and i had to pay for the lunch. He promised me that he will send me the money but its more than 5 or 6 months and i have not received a single penny yet. What a cheapo!
the feeling is mutual Naik. it was akward with you not talking, and me exhausting every topic under the sun to start a conversation. also, your turning up in a burqah and naqaab didnt exactly help.
and please quit using the lunch check as an extortion item - i sent u the money thrice already, funny how you never receive it ever.
ok.. I've met numerous ppl off gupshup, they were all worth it... never went to meet anyone alone, but if I think about it, they're all so nice, it wouldn't have mattered :) I don't think anyone I met was what I had imagined them to be like, but it was a pleasant surprise each time.
It had better not cause me to have to fly to Geneva, cos if I do, I’m gonna be ticked off as hell and when I get there, I’ll be all set to kick ass and chew gum - and I’ll be all outta gum!!!
Hmm..I've met several people off the 'net and well...most of them, alhamdulilah were not bad...but one or two were really bad...well actually at first they weren't bad..but as communication grew etc...the friendship went sour.
"Allah extends His Hand at night so that He can forgive the sinner of the day; He extends His Hand in the day so that He can forgive the sinner of the night. He will continue to do so until the sun rises from the West (the Day of Judgment)"
I’ve met a couple of people from the “virtual world.” One thing I’ve noticed is, after the meeting, your friendship either grows stronger…or it cools down and evenetually dies out. And so far, it’s been mutual in either of the cases.
There’s always a charm in meeting the people…or at least seeing their picture..so you can actually put a face to their nick.
(No experience with any of the guppies yet..but I wouldn’t mind going to a get-together in Toronto!!)
have had great experiences....
except for one time....
i met this girl i knew from ICQ and we exchanged phone numbers and then after a month or so she calls me and tells me that she is alone at her home so i cud come over to her apartment....
and that was the end of it, i never saw her or called or had a chat with her again....
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Originally posted by armughal: have had great experiences....
except for one time....
i met this girl i knew from ICQ and we exchanged phone numbers and then after a month or so she calls me and tells me that she is alone at her home so i cud come over to her apartment....
and that was the end of it, i never saw her or called or had a chat with her again....
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