Med school & wedding

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Re: Med school & wedding

@Laadli

So it seems that you are rather deep into the planning of it all and good for you. Just to give examples of what I have seen people in my own circle of family friends do, who have been in the same boat as you, is to have the nikah early so that they would at least be married, Then they have had a pretty awesome time at med school going on holiday with their husband/wife during the vacations and living with them and generally reaping the benefits of married life.

THEN, when they have had time to sort out their life and a suitable length of time has presented itself, perhaps a year or even 2 later, they have have organised all the dholkis, mendhi, mayoun, shaadi, walima, the whole shebang, at their leisure.

I don’t know if you would consider this a viable option, you might think it is stupid to have such a huge time elapse between nikah and the other events, but it has worked well for those of my friends who have wanted to be married early AND have a kicka** wedding.

Good luck either way, and I’m sure everything will be forgotten concerning the wedding once you settle into married life

My family is really ANTI-having a nikkah without rukhsati and they definitely ascribe to the old school / incorrect idea that people that are nikkahfied can’t hang out with each other until the rukhsati. Unfortunately, if we went that route, we’d still be unable to do anything–no vacays, no trips together, etc–and if we DID do that, then it’d have to be hidden from everyone as if we were teenagers doing something wrong. We’ve also had badddd experiences in the family with nikkah w/o rukhsati not working out so I think my parents are also apprehensive about that.

I’m kinda (read: VERY) type A and I like having things organized/a plan. It’s frustrating that there’s so many unknown variables/things out of my control with this so I’m just trying to plan it out so I’m not caught by surprise.