He must have opened the post himself. I never even knew he had a date. I was just getting ready for uni when he come along and informed me that i had better come with him. It was early in the morning and dad was asleep - and i thought i’d do the ‘appropriate adult’ duty - seeing as my other bros and sis had lectures.
I quickly got ready because if we missed it we’d have to wait for another 2 hours - and hurried along. As we turned the corner from our block, a warden for our borough was walking along ( white , 30-ish) . He glanced at Tahir and mouthed me a hi, so i smiled back in acknowledgement of his gesture.
He’s the one, said Tahir.
The one what??
The one we beat up!
You WHAT !
Yeah - it wasn’t me there were eleven of us.
ELEVEN ! What the hell ! ! 11 against 1 !!
No there were two of them..
BUT still..hes older than you. You make me sick…
I assumed this was ANOTHER of his fights - he’s in a gang of teens you see. So i told him off and hurried along, the courts near us. THANK GOD! The amount of times i’ve been…
The solicitor was there - along with 3 other paki boys who were also accused of being involved. He took us aside and said it was time for a statement to be taken from Tahir - so we sat down and went through the paces - where were you? what were you doing? what happened? why did you do that? are you sure the white guy ran over and hit you for nothing? etc. It then transpired that Mr Warden was the victim of the attack !! With the formalities over and done with he advised us on legal position etc and then told us to wait outside.
After an hour or so the court usher came out and summoned us all in…
As we walked in … there was a ginger haired guy, freckled, 15-ish stood with 2 friends outside. Outside the courtroom doors that is. So Tahir was infront of me and i was trailing him. Tahir turned around to look at this ginger haired guy. The guy looked back. Tahir as he was stepping into the courtroom of one trial said…
‘What the f*** you looking at? I’ll bang you one’
I was AGHAST ! I was walking behind him and turned around to look at the ginger haired guy to say i’m in disbelief here. And the i’m sorry for this look.
You can't shakle him for sure, but don't ever stop giving him minitalks whenever you get a chance. I am sure he's not immune to how you feel, and i think it's good he's got someone like you for a sister. It's a stage in his life where he isn't using the best of his judgement, but this too shall pass, Insha'Allah.
as i was saying deedee, i have a younger bro too, and as his guardian, i regularly hav to face the consequences of his fights
its not good for yr bro to be a prt of a teen gang coz (i hope not) but usually leads to drugs…abuses…and more hot waters. he will grow out of it eventually but till then do keeep a sharp eye on him. also try to talk to your parents about the whole ordeal but dont let them scold him, coz at this age guys tend to get more stubborn.
try to coax him out if the gang thingy, specially since muslims are the victims to a lot of discrimination these days. i hope e doesnt get into more trouble. tc
Sehar - baji jaani, i hope so for his sake. I told him this very morning not to ruin his life and he has the 'it's my life so what if i ruin it' attitude. And i told him but when you ruins yours, you are ruining ours too. Whether he absorbs the effects it has on us is debateable. But bad times pass. They do :)
[QUOTE] Originally posted by ~Sehar~: *
You can't shakle him **for sure, but don't ever stop giving him minitalks whenever you get a chance. I am sure he's not immune to how you feel, and i think it's good he's got someone like you for a sister. It's a stage in his life where he isn't using the best of his judgement, **but this too shall pass*, Insha'Allah.
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note the two bold parts......very dangerous statements they become: this is the biggest misconception people have! they think that they cannot change his behaviour yet they hope it will go away by itself. NO! the only way it can go away is if you put effort in it.
only minitalks won't be sufficient
Sarah - LOL. Would love to but that's if he'd co-operate in coming. He has always been a little fighter but when he was little it was cute. But it's getting worse and worse - I opened his student diary the other day. NOT a single thing related to school BUT all over were these cannabis leaves ( very prettily drawn - but thats besides the point ). Little stickers saying 'Legalise ganja' etc.
Seeing a shrink won't do any good. It's a group mentality thing. Just about everywhere you go where there's a large gathering of Pakistan boys there's trouble these days. Aussie cricketers were refusing to play against pakistan in England last time after Ricky Ponting got hit in the face by a beer can. Ask him how he fancies driving cabs fopr a living coz that's where he'll end up. Either that or selling drugs.
DD, I think you should better bring this entire situation to the knowledge of your parents. They are parents, they need to take the responsibility. Once he is sure that there is someone to whom he is answerable to, he might mellow down a bit. But don't tell him that you told your parents. He trusts you and has your support.
This won't be good in the longrun for him as Mr. Xtreme pointed out. Let your parents take charge.
Mr Xtreme I drone on about that to him. And the response i get is actually quite positive - 'wait till i get my grades, i'm gona show you all'.
lost soul chandu rani. They know. I don't know why he isn't scared of them :-( Me and my other siblings haven't got the 'jhuurat' to do anything dad disapproves of :-( yet he is like whatever. And because Dads authority is not working, everything else seems hopeless...
Fraudz LOL. Ok :) Perhaps next time i'll threaten him with it ...
i was the first one to reply with such a nice long answer 
