Me And My Husband

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Fraudia, you may be right but not everyone has these kinds of activities. I have met many desis in US who are here from ages and have yet to visit a beach, concert, steak house , zoo and museum. It totally depends on what your activities are. For some ppl fun is just to sit with the family (and extended family) and talk and not go on beaches alone, for some ppl fun may be just to take a ride in Rickshaw than to jog in national park, for some ppl fun may be to have road-side theley waley ban-kababs, sabri ki nehari, pajjey k paeey and not non-halal steaks, some ppl may prefer to be at Hawksbay (not-so-clean-beach) with their family rather than being on California beach alone and so on.

I guess it totally depends on what her definition of fun and activity is and how well she can mold her into activities in Pakistan.

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Let’s look at the other side of this - families living so close that they are always in your business, mosques that I can’t go to because I’m a woman, streets that my daughters can’t play on and where my son gets things stolen from him, the rotten smell everywhere after bakra eid because no one cleans up the filth from the slaughter

And Pakistan seriously lacks in quality entertainment for kids, and no, running wild with the cousins is not quality entertainment - there is not a single nice childrens mueseum or science center in the country.

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Desi MC nay farmaya

*Well brotha if you step outta pind then you are gonna find all these things.
Steakhouses > Go to Lahore Food Street or Islamabad *

right, anything comparing to gene and georgetis, chicago chop house, magnums?
what about variety, how many world class restaurants do we have?

*Have you ever been on a concert in Pakistan.? *

Indeed, but the variety is not there. I can go to

*We got great bands plus have had many international bands concerts, Karachi Islamabad and Lahore. *

our bands are mediocre at best, and how many world class international bands play there? as I said we have a better selection of music in a major US city or London in one year tha all of Pakistan put together in a decade.

Ok lets count from desi scene (RDB, Manke E, Sukhbir, Lehmber Hussainpuri, Sahara, Jazzy B, and Bollywood scene) and Back Street Boys, Bombay Rockers, Brain Adam.
Plus when you host a concert for itnernational star then you have to look for the outcome and the crowd. How many numbers of people listens to them.
These all factors are counted.

factors shmactors, excuses. fact is that whatever the reason, major bands do nto play in Pakistan..

*As in sociel you mean by clubs and that.
Then let me tell you we have got some great clubs with LIVE DJs...
I dont know about Karachi, But I been to the Lahore and Islamabad. *

No no no no, aik toh deis baccha log run to clubs anytime someone says social

*And got an Amusement park cant remember the exact name...I'll get back to you on that. *

'an' amusment park. I suppose it compares to six flags or disney? or alton towers etc?

Go to Karachi Clifton side or come to Islamabad for the bike/car races.
Every Friday......

errrr, I meant bike trails chanda... you know ytake your mountain bike off road and shyt. and the chichora street racing in clifton is old news..are there race tracks solely for racing. do we have an Indy500 ..or do we have grandprix like silverstone or montreal or Indy? we dont have supermoto.

Stop whining..........

whine, I showed you the real lack of stuff in pakistan and you call it whining? national pride and all is fine, but there is no shame in accepting where we fall short.

I'll give you detail answer once I get back to home

okay..shabaash

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indelible nay farmaya

**Dont be that rigid man. **

I am not being rigid I am being very matter of fact here

** Your priorites are theam parks, steak houses,biking paths, social outlets and entertainment.
May be for other millions of people they are not. **

These are not my priorities, these are examples..these are examples to indicate that we simply do not have the infrastructure for many activities, we dont have the variety and we dont have the facilities.

for millions of people in a pind in chuk #42 zila mardaan many things that take place in Karachi may not be priorities but on an objective scale, is chuk#42 zila mardaan more entertaining than Karachi?

** Do you have phajje ke payee , **

Nope, but thats one specific spot in one specific city, everything that I mentioned about what is available to us here is available in every major city

**halwa puuri, /]

oh yes indeed

**frequent sittings with elder people, **

depends for many people it is for many people its not. Increasingly even for peoplein Pakistan who have moved to diff cities in pakistan the frequent sitting with elders is gone by the wayside

**families living close and frequently visiting each other, **

depends, there are many families that have chosen to live in the same cities such as my family is mostly in one city in US and I may move there one day too..so yeah these ppl see each other often, same for my wife’s family which is basically concentrated in 3 cities..but for many others, thats not the case.

**in your neighbourhood every body knows you and takes care of your kids when they play on street, **

oh yeah, I am tight with my neighbours.

**do you have Bakra madi where you go and pick your pakra for eid qurban, **

actually yes I can do that but i choose to hve the qurbani done in some undrpriviliged area.

**do you have mosque where you can hear 5 time call for prayer every day ? **

you mean the mosque that 95% of the neigbourhood in Pakistan does not go to? err no we dont have azaan

** there are so many other countless things that we dont have here in nort america and west. **

sure, but wat I wrote earlier still stands, there are many things that pakitan has that we dont have here, but there are many things that we have here that Pak does not have and for someone who lives here to go back it will be something they will miss.

nd this is entertainment? the thread was on
**So where you live, you become adept of it. **

yup, and as the original poster wrote she was nt sure if she could live in Pakistan bcause she is from London, ..so understand that there are things that she will miss and it will be tough for her rather than saying oh yeah everything that u have in London is here in Pak so live with it… thatis simply not true.

**Trust me, millions of people in pakistan dont even know what theam park is. Its just cause we are living here or that we such things frequently. **

millsions of ppl there odnt know what a deodorant is either, but again the context of the discussion was for someone living here to move to pakistan and to adjust, and I pointed out that there are many things ppl would miss.

Just the matter of priorities and preferences. :clown:

and in this case we were talking about priorities and preferences of someone who lives in the west and has to live in pakistan

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QUOTE=Decent 6Chora nay farmaya

*Fraudia, you may be right but not everyone has these kinds of activities. *

true...this was an example to show that we dont have the options available. If we had it people would use it, maybe less than people here but

*I have met many desis in US who are here from ages and have yet to visit a beach, concert, steak house , zoo and museum. *

dude i have met desis in UK who cant even speak english so that does not surprise me. so while many dont use these facilitis there are many others that do. I mean even if you look at the limited resources in terms of entertainment available in Pakistan, how many people actually use them...there are many ppl in Pakistan who have never been to a beach, or aladdins, or even to historical sites like harrapa or to northern areas..does it mean all these are worthless.. no.

*It totally depends on what your activities are. For some ppl fun is just to sit with the family (and extended family) and talk and not go on beaches alone, *

well first of all you dont have to go to the beach alone, you can go with family, or to a theme park. I recall back in my childhood family trips to alton towers and margate a caravan of 8 cars full of people going for the weekend..

*for some ppl fun may be just to take a ride in Rickshaw than to jog in national park, for some ppl fun may be to have road-side theley waley ban-kababs, sabri ki nehari, pajjey k paeey and not non-halal steaks, some ppl may prefer to be at Hawksbay (not-so-clean-beach) with their family rather than being on California beach alone and so on. *

yeah for some people fun may be to do nothing at all and just walk around their mohalla, but the point here is if you make a list of available facilities and activities, the list for pakistani cities falls far short of cities like London, New York, Chicago, Toronto, LA etc.

and whats this business of alone on a beach...and non halal steaks..
you can have halaal steaks if you want and you can get something else if you want. point was that we do not have world class restaurants there..and we do not have the variety

I guess it totally depends on what her definition of fun and activity is and how well she can mold her into activities in Pakistan.

yeah and for most ppl moving from west to Pak, they miss a lot of the stuff.

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well amana but as ppl said for some kids learning may not be going to a world class museum or science center or planetarium or aquareum, but playing gulli danda in galli after coming back from madrassa..thats their definition of learning.

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True- I was too narrow-minded in my post. These are the things that I missed the most when we were staying in Islamabad. It doesn't even have the facilities of a medium-sized midwestern town.

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No body can argue about the fact that we have more facilities here than in Pakistan and if someone is doing then he/she is dumb but only fact that matters is that if bhabi is flexable enough to adjust FOR HER HUSBAND? for heaven sake, ppl do live in Pakistan and many of those ppl are very happy. Problem rise up when we try to compare apples and oranges. I can understand if someone has to move to UK from US and we are comparing. When comparing USA with Pakistan (or UK with Pakistan) its different environment, different activities, different ppl, different standard of living and different culture saying all together that there are no activities, no standard of living no cultural activities etc is quite a bad generalization

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I would be lucky if my hubby If i do marry decides to live in pak...

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oops, now you will get the phajjay ay paye militia after you :wink:

thats not the only thing that matters, what also matters is why is he there, how long is he there for, is he placing the needs of others above the needs of his wife. If she can sacrifice and be in Pakistan for a while, he can also sacrifice and go back to UK and make trips to Pakistan as needed. Thats why i had asked her a few questions to get an understanding of the situation but i guess we sacred her away.

right so making the argument to someone who lives in Uk that oh yeah yu will not miss anything in Pakistan because we have “everything” is a false statement, and that was my point.

No one said there are no this or no that, but its very limited, and its not a generalization. The examples given were to show areas that are severely lacking. if you stack up factors there is simply less variety, less accessibility and less richness of what is available to general public there. its a fact…

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The option of not living with your husband is an option...?

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When you know you have someone you can put your head on their shoulder and feel comfortable.
its a beautiful feeling to find that one man and with whom you can be totally just you....

so does it matter where he keeps you...

poor guy misses his father probably stay with him...

husband and wife should never be seperate they should be together as one... the closer they are the better life is.. when you go far away from each other ... other peopel try to come in between the relationship...

and honey there is nothing better then having a true love as a life partner :)

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PCG

true dat..it could be an option. Many people do it out of necessity. look at the people in middle east, look at tech coolies who have their families back home

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nia while I agree with you that husband and wife should try to stay together, in some cases it is not possible..

also one can not make decisions without factoring in other person's input, we simply dont know why he wants to be in Pakistan, is the family there does he have commitments for which he feels he needs to be thre, or does he just want to mourn there, or is he tryign to wrap up his father's stuff there.. we dont know.

I mean for all we know he could be depressed and just in an escape mode..maybe he needs time away from the usual rat race.

unless and until the facts are known, nothing can be said with any certainty

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I know it happens. But I'm not supportive of it. I think its a lousy situation to be put in.

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but this is an entirely different situation...

this girl wants to be away from her husband simply because she is bored....i dont see the necessity in her sitution.

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I thought she wants to be away because she doesn't like Pakistan.

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PCG ^^

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i agree with what puchi kuchi said....and yes life in Pak is boring.

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lol life in pakistan is boring ....i hope most girls dun have the same opinion:)...