TLK
March 25, 2011, 9:51pm
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Re: Maybe it’s just me
But I’ve noticed that girls in an arranged marriage tend to treat their fiances as a boyfriend, if they happen to be one of the lucky few that can meet their to-be husbands before marriage. If they don’t, then the first month or two of marriage, the husband is treated like a boyfriend. Now, this is completely my opinion, but I think it’s because of this attitude, that a whole bunch of problems that we all tend to hear in Life1 and Wedding forum arise. Fiance and husband aren’t boyfriend. They’re termed differently for a reason.
Maybe it’s because they haven’t had proper contact with the opposite sex, they tend to just go all out when they do get engaged, and try to fulfill that fantasy that they’ve had, not realizing that where in a bf-gf relationship where some things are ignorable, they aren’t in a fiance/husband relationship. Where because of a certain situation it’s alright to break up with the bf, it isn’t in a fiance/husband relationship, and so a lot of things might be said or done which can completely mess up the future.
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well said Murgi.
Though I like to belive that reason is not because they haven’t had proper contact with the opposite sex as that could be true for the guy too but you dont see many guys treating their wives as a GF more than newly wed wives treating their hubbies as a BF.