Maybe..... I am just too picky?

Lifestyle Relationships
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There is a limit to how much you can talk with someone. Eventually other qualities/traits would surface up/gain priority and you will wish you had considered them earlier on.

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i would have to disagree. as she gets older, the guys will get older as well. unfortunately many guys want girls a bit younger. so she would need to find a guy at least 27/28. if we keeps waiting, it will go to 30-32 anyway. thats why she should forget abt age and see if he is a good fit for her

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lets not worry about tomorrow

but my point is 30+ single guys are boring as hell

no offence

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is he a fob??

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good question!

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No he was born and raised in the UK!

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If I found a guy "boring" and didn't look forward to talking to him.....I wouldn't even date him! (Marriage with him wouldn't even be an option!).

As for chemistry...lol......ay before I met my husband, I dated others with whom I thought I had chemistry too. For one reason or another none of those guys became my husband. And yes, even after my last break-up BEFORE meeting hubby, I thought I'd never find "that chemistry" again. But it happened (btw, I was older than 25 when I met my hubby). I'm sure you've heard this before but you really need to have patience. Marriage is not something that you should rush into (or allow anyoen to tell you that you have some sort of deadline to do it).

Even after 3 years....my husband and I can still talk for hours about random stuff. I have never found him boring. When its just the two of us at home....when we go on vacation together and it's just the two of us for days.....things are still far from boring b/c we always have "stuff" to talk/joke about.

This is the rest of your life you're talking about....you have every right to be picky! Always remember....that your parents will not be living day-to-day life with your husband. Neither will your friends and or the guppies here. At the end, it will be YOU who will share your life with him. So really ask yourself....is this the man you want to share your life with? Do you see yourself spending the next 40 years with him....sharing all your joys/sorrows etc? If you don't feel any sort of chemistry or excitement with him right now....how will life be 10 years from now?

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please describe more than his boringness.........i am sure guppans can find some reasons to reject him

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:k:

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PHEW inspiron!

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is he handsome? what is his career? and what other details do u know of him?

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I still think you should give him a chance, maybe he will "brighten/lighten up" when you meet him in person! Some people are like that, especially because he is much older and has that maturity. If then you feel you don't click, then let it be. Don't dismiss him just b/c you cannot wait to hang up on him.

Also saying so b/c it IS hard to find the right guy so you might as well look at all options as they come instead of dismissing them outright, at least that way you will have no regrets.

Inshallah all will work out for the best, Allah has made your jodi daar somewhere :D :D

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He is not handsome but he is fine to look at I am attracted to tall hairy built men which asian men rarely are so I dont really mind that.

His career is good although as a doctor I will earn more than him eventually, although he does not seem to mind that.

ermm he wants to improve in his religion.

hmmmmmmm thats the main deets in guess?

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you did not just say that ...

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as long as the amount he earns is enough to support a family, you making more is no big deal at all. ok well i hope everyone has helped you. update us when he visits. inshallah it will go well :)

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Inspi... start meeting him in person besides talking to him on the phone.

Let him bring his family. You might find him boring because he is a new person to you. People sometimes take time to open up to some people. You should see the efforts he is making. Take the things forward. Of course, you are not going to sign the nikahnama anytime soon so you will have time to decide.

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:k:

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Inspiron:

I agree with the others who said that you should meet him in person before making a final decision. Some people are totally different in person versus over the phone. You have nothing to lose by meeting with him and his family at least once. Just don't feel guilty about whatever decision you make. Always remember that that the only person who will live with the consequences of your decision (whether your reject him or accept him) is you.

Good luck and keep us updated! :)

On a total side note: What specialty are you going into? You're about to start residency right?

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I agree with others that some people are really bad at talking over the phone. If he's shown you manners, respect and all the basics there is no harm in meeting the family. He might surprise you and you might feel that connection.

Also, did he say yes, just based on the phone conversations you've had?

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45 mins on the foon :hayaa: vutt stamina!