Ok soooooo FINALLY after like a bazillion years a guy (rishta) likes me! huzzaahhh
His mother called my mine and then my mum gave his mum my number and me and him have spoken 5 times. We have a 7 year age gap and he seems a normal person so far.
Now he wants to bring his parentals over to visit next month… so the issue is…
When I talk to him on the phone I can’t wait to hang up because I find him boring. He is nice and tries to make jokes he is not silent he actually talks however I honestly always find excuses to hang up because I get reallllllllly bored after 45 mins or so.
Now, I have read on here how one should be practical in these matters and how good men are hard to find. So am I just too picky? Sometimes I feel like I am a commitment phobe too, like a small part of my brain thinks that marriage = end of life I remember my friends mum once saying ’ shaadi se pehle apne aap ko maar do’ thats the only way to survive and my parents well I don’t think they get along that well although both are brilliant people they are just mere companions- I dont want that!
The other issue is I have felt true chemistry before someone who I wanted to talk to alllll the time and someone who I could talk to for hours and hours and hours and who I got soo excited to talk to…but what are the chances of finding that again?
So am I just being too picky?
(p.s. SK I got REALLY excited when this guy wanted to visit because I thought omggg I can make a new thread on GS )
if you are going to be 25 soon, i would put that practicality hat on and consider this rishta very much so. judge him on his career, religion, and family life. see how he treats his mother and rest of family.
if all is good..say yesssssssss and let the shaadi tayaari begin! inshallah inshallah!
Poor chap he is trying to impress you , he has heard that girl dig for funny guys.
He has to visit all the joke sites for hours and hours to find the right jokes and you find them boring.
Inspi, u need a DANDA :ASA: Not for the guy but for you :p
Stop thinking like that. Let him bring his family. Meet him face to face for as many times as you/ he likes. Aray give the poor soul a chance.
I know what you are going through. We have seen soo many rejections that when someone says YES, we start thinking: Why the hell has he said Yes? Same is happening with me. Take it slow. Give the guy some time. He is trying his level best to persue you.
nooooo im saying u should CONSIDER him as he has said yes. of course do all ur research FBI style haha. if hes a genuinely good person, bismillah par ke haan khedo and do isthikara as well.
Inspi, u need a DANDA :ASA: Not for the guy but for you :p
Stop thinking like that. Let him bring his family. Meet him face to face for as many times as you/ he likes. Aray give the poor soul a chance.
I know what you are going through. We have seen soo many rejections that when someone says YES, we start thinking: Why the hell has he said Yes? Same is happening with me. Take it slow. Give the guy some time. He is trying his level best to persue you.
hehe Ashy maybe that is it, I am in sooooooo much denial that someone finally likes me that I trying to pick out negatives!
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Shadi , shadi , shadi aur shadi key biryani , do invite me please , I love daigh ka qorma aur biryani. :snooty.
