Re: Matrimonial Websites
There are good catches on some of these websites. I have met young nice professionals, despite all my horror stories - those are just the more crazy ones. But there are normal young guys.
If you are looking for someone who has cover over from pakistan within the last 10 years, keeps his head down, works like a racehorse to survive in the States, I can tell you there are MANY of those guys out there - these rishtas suit some women perfectly - like girls who have recently come over themselves or girls who are not anti-FOB marrying.
As for the US Born doctor or lawyer or accountant, there are plenty of those too. It’s just that…
you have to pay for a membership, I’ve found. I have yet to cough up money for some, but i know there are about 250 guys on my list that on paper and by pic are good catches, I just don’t have any way of initiating contact and as they’re just as cheap and cynical as me, they don’t either.
Yep, I should prolly pitch in the 30 or 40 bucks and meet those 200 guys, yeah? 
But hey-soos, the phone doesn’t stop - I have at least like 2-3 guys calling a month out of the ones that do pay that I select out from all the other silly interests.
It’s easy in the sense that you don’t like the guy - easy click to reject the guy. There is no family drama. There is no emotional stress for either party. You can initiate interests, and of those, a LOT of guys are actually very open and forthcoming. In fact, most nice guys I have met say they dont have time to even look for the rishta profiles, cuz as soon as they log on, there is a list of interests they have been sent.
There is a LONG LINE of girls in the medical field especially or women who have higher education and are now still waiting for proposals. Lots of masters, lots of phd type women. I look up women in my area on these sites, and MOST, are well-kept, seem nice and confident at least by face, and have a decent education. So the guys have an ENDLESS supply of nice girls to choose from.
In fact, I tell guys all the time - put yourself on the internet, and if you’re a reasonable catch, you should have more offers than you can deal with.
Just to put it in perspective, the cop that I talked to → so he’s an obvious jerk when you talk to him, or so I feel he is too rough, but with a profile where he writes 2 lines, has written that he’s got a job with the police department, and has NO picture up, the boy says he opened his profile and within the first week had 100 requests, about half of the women were girls in the med field. I was like, no. He said YES! The only reason why he talked to me was because I saw he as online day 1 or 2 of his subscription, I messaged him, and he decided to say hi online, otherwise, he was so overwhelmed with the requests that he literally says “I don’t have time to go through this, I’ll just go back to hitting on the girls at work”.
So, I think if you’re a guy → online can be quite the jackpot. If you’re a girl → online OR real life, it’s slim pickings ladies.
We made our bed, we’re the ones that raised these guys to be spoilt and accepted mediocrity from them, so now we’re sleeping in that bed. It’s clear as day when you talk to rishta aunties, marriage agencies, and these online sites - there are MANY MORE qualified girls than there are guys.
So i should start looking one for me 
