Marrying your cousin

Princess121 · August 21, 2011, 12:17pm

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Whenever I’d go on hols to PK before getting married, one of my cousins there was obsessed with me and my sisters, always boasting how lucky he was with all his options…oh man I always wanted to whip his backside except I knew he’d only get too happy by that! He was very good looking esp’ b/c of his light eyes but he was far too self-obsessed, cheesy and spoke broken English! He loved standing as if he was modelling - always ready with his hands on his hips, too many shirt buttons undone and sun-glasses ready! And I hated it when he sang to us! Too cheesy! Mum asked me about him and I said big NO!

One of my other cousins in PK was also very cheesy and filmy. When I was 16 years old on a visit to PK he told me he was wanted me for himself and was going to marry me!! Creepy! Few years later when we were on hols again all of us cousins were in one room playing when this cousin seemed deep in thought and upset! He left the room for a bit and then came back calling for me! I went with him into the other living room where he had the video on pause! He played the video of Shah Rukh Khan grabbing Kajol’s hand and holding onto it on *that *train scene…then my cousin paused the video *(…it gets worse…) *and extended his hand out to me asking me to now hold his hand! Oh gwad…I burst into laughter! I laughed so hard my stomach was aching! He was so upset he left the room! Mum asked me about him and I said a big NO to him too!

My other cousins from PK are really nice and have always been so humble and polite with me but I couldn’t marry them b/c I think there would have been a big cultural difference between us as most are in the Army (so they couldn’t move to UK) and other half were from the village. I personally wanted to marry someone from England just like my sisters and brother did.

My cousins in UK are mostly all younger than me or much much older. No one was around my age except female cousins.

So those are my reasons for not marrying into the fam. Nothing against cuz’ marriages but just none were meant for me.

Just reading that makes me cringe!!! You poor thing!

aramis · August 21, 2011, 2:06pm

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i am married to my first cousin… used to call him BHAI too :D… but we were not very close families.. would meet once in a while … never thought that i would be marrying him ..he is abt 10 years older than me and i had couple of cousins closer to my age who were vague candidates. he was engaged before and i attended his engagment party… never dreaming that i will end up marrying him. it happened 22 years ago seems like yesterday though

Iyla · August 21, 2011, 6:05pm

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Lol. Nah’ it has never bothered me as I have nevr had any feelings for any of my cousins like that. But I love having a good laugh at those memories with my siblings and friends!

I met my man back at uni so I am very happy Alhamdolilah. Although it did cause WW3 back in PK but that was expected! Lol.

Iyla · August 21, 2011, 6:06pm

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Wow 22 years you’ve been married, Mashallah!

And *double wow *you went to your Hubby’s engagement once upon a time! Lol. How did you two end up together then?

redvelvet · August 21, 2011, 6:15pm

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^When you burst out laughing at him offering his hand…waiting for you to grab hold…that was the funniest part. It’s mean…I know…cuz it wouldn’t be so funny for him.

Iyla · August 21, 2011, 6:47pm

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Prehaps he thought he was being romantic! I felt a little disturbed after as it was *too *weird and cheesy! Lol. But I can still laugh abt’ it to this day!!

Naabigh · August 21, 2011, 10:36pm

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Just wondering - why cant people just search and read the tafseer of a hadith before quoting it in the wrong context ..

zero69cool · August 22, 2011, 2:16pm

guys wa about abnormal kids if u marry your cousins ? is it just a rumour or a fact

kidd120 · August 23, 2011, 2:06am

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^Are all the abnormal people in the west result of cousin marriages..?

Deeba1234 · August 24, 2011, 10:25am

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^Nobody said all, did they?? Why are some ppl only able to think in black + white..

Zero69cool, if you do a search on here all the info and statistics should come up