marrying your cousin when your parents are first cousins..

[sweefs]

Re: marrying your cousin when your parents are first cousins..

@Murgi

just gross and wrong.

why would you want to recycle your DNA? because that’s what essentially it is. cousin marriage is allowed, but only when there is no other option. the more you do it, the more you’re going to mess up the DNA. I know a family like that. grand parents cousins, aunty and uncle cousins, now a few of the wives/husbands for the kids are cousins. the 3rd generation is already weird…in terms of physical features and quirks…quirks that are cute when you are a kid, but when they are weird, and when they stay, even weirder. who knows what will happen to the kids.

yep!

[Mamaof3]

Re: marrying your cousin when your parents are first cousins..

You know that can be very true. But never hold that to be complete and total...my BIL married his first cousin even tho much inter-marrying had gone on. Their kids are fine. I married my hubby, not related in any way, not even the same "race" and we have one with troubles. They are related to my age when he was born tho and the fact that I was "infertile" etc etc. But the thing is...you just have to be really ready for whatever Allah/God grants you. A child, any child, is a blessing. And if you arent ready to accept whatever child you are given - and accept the child as a blessing no matter what - then you may have a tough road ahead yeah? The troubles make the successes all that much sweeter and life all that much more challenging. Not easy for sure but I still count my blessings each and every day as I fall into bed exhausted lol!

[S02]

Re: marrying your cousin when your parents are first cousins..

There really isn't any guarrantee.

If you like your cousin and see yourself having a happy future with him, then go for it. If this concern about the health of children is just one of many other concerns, then don't do it.

Certainly, I don't think people should be constantly encouraged to marry within the family; but you shouldn't break a perfectly good rishta (that you yourself otherwise find desireable) because of uncertainty about the future of your children.

[Aiesha]

Re: marrying your cousin when your parents are first cousins..

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[bunnyhoney]

Re: marrying your cousin when your parents are first cousins..

Am doing' the same thing - marrying the cousin...

[coffee_cake]

Re: marrying your cousin when your parents are first cousins..

Deeper complexity:

what if you have a cousin who is simply put a hottie...but you usually would opt not to cousin marry?

how to break this new 'acceptance' to parents?

[Sara516]

Re: marrying your cousin when your parents are first cousins..

^ Depends...how is hte parents and cousin's attitude towards cousin marriages?

[coffee_cake]

Re: marrying your cousin when your parents are first cousins..

Dont know from one side.

Another set of parents are maybe favorable to it, but definitely not opposed.

I am talking a 8/10 scoring POA here.

[S02]

Re: marrying your cousin when your parents are first cousins..

I think it's best to avoid it. However, if the couple has developed feelings for each other and there's no other objection to the marriage, I wouldn't feel right stopping them.

[fairywings85]

Re: marrying your cousin when your parents are first cousins..

i totally get the wole 'but how can i marry my cousin i see him/her as my brother/sister' this is true if u live in the same country and see each other all the time and have basically grown up together...but if they are in a different country its not the same..

i think if u fall in love with a someone u dont look to see if they are related or not!!!

[shahwaiz]

Re: marrying your cousin when your parents are first cousins..

the same old discussion, repeating it and following it blindly is surely going to bring retarded children. i have seen such a fmaily where there were many cases of such sort. so, better to do so not as a custom.

[PowerHead]

Re: marrying your cousin when your parents are first cousins..

thats freakin disgusting. -_-

[Iggle]

If your parents are 1st cousins - don't marry your 1st cousin!

There are over 6 billion people in this world - you are bound to find someone else...hehe!

[fairywings85]

@Still

my parents really really realllllllllllllllly want me to marry a cousin. its so very convenient you see. he'd be good to me. he'd never divorce me. its the safest bet...

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this isnt true! i know of soooo many cases where couples have got divorced who are also cousins...its just not true anymore!

[fasaadi]

Everyone here seems to only mention genetic defects when talking about risks associated with cousin marriages health wise... Most people wouldn't have these dangerous genetic disorders, like hemophilia, but the worst complication from marrying into the family is infertility! My sister asked a professor of biology about it and that's what he said and that's what I've noticed as well. Among my second cousins, inter marriage was the norm when their parents and grandparents were even related. Now they've had such problems conceiving to the point where it's taken years and years to have one child, and their children have had other health problems as well or are developmentally slow. I don't think this always happens with every case but infertility is probably more common.