marrying your cousin when your parents are first cousins..

[Skittlez]

Re: marrying your cousin when your parents are first cousins..

@bhenjee

ufffffffffff this discussion has totally gotten me goin in circles…
i guess i dont care too much abt the post-marriage relationship with my khala/phupo as much as i care for having physically/mentally challenged kids..

BUT

if i refuse on my first cousin on the basis that my parents are first cousins (generically speaking) and get married outside the khandan…
** what if as a fair avenge, Allah does not bless me with kids… OR they’re born physically/mentally challenged or hav some kinda disability as is… **

and fraudia, PLeaSE, im sure most of us think of our cousins as bhen/bhai, but once u grow up, ur parents/ his parents start having all these funny ideas in their heads…

like fnp_23 said, it’s totally b/w a rock and a hard place!

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Oh my God! Are you serious?! Why on earth would Allah punish you simply cuz you dont marry your cousin? That’s silly. Apparently you’re having doubts about the whole thing, and if you’re doubtful, then chances are he’s just not right for you. In the end, it has to be something you want, not a compromise to keep everyone in the family happy.

Personally, I dont think the cousin marriage is a great idea… it has alot of drawbacks… God forbid it doesnt work out and you end up getting divorced, you’ll lose your relatives in the process. Safest bet is to go with a non-relative. (speaking from experience here, trust me family matters get iffy when you go from a neice to a DIL.. its more complicated then you can imagine!) I dont mean to discourage you though… after all you know your family best! Just take all factors into consideration and if you feel its right, go for it!

All the best… follow your heart, you should be just fine!